Post # 1
Hey everyone! When you did your seating chart were most tables about the same number? I have so many different groups and tables of 6, 8 and even 10.
To any of you who had tables of 10, were the tables cramped? I don’t want the guests to be uncomfortable but our crowd is so diverse and I don’t want to split people up.
Also, how many tables did you end up having? Including our bridal party table we will have about 16 (guest list is at 100). Ugh, I am so confused and frustrated!
(steps away from the computer while pulling out hair and having a melt down)
Post # 3
How big are the tables you want to seat 10 at? I tried to do rounds of 8, but had one round of 10 and one or two of 7. The 10 was cramped, but I couldn’t do it otherwise. I also had a table of 6 – and it was a bit sparse, but was fine.
I had 15 tables for 122 guests….
People will be ok if you mush them together. Do the tables that you are know are for sure and then play around with the others.
Hang in there! I was rearranging up to the night before the wedding!!
Post # 4
@oracle: I haven’t even seen the tables yet, that is what makes me nervous. The venue keeps reassuring me that it will be fine and that they have both round and rectangular tables.
I just don’t want people to be uncomfortable but I don’t think I have much of a choice on some of them 🙁
Post # 5
I sat at a round with 10 guests recently and it was TIGHT. I’m not a fan of going over 8, unless there are kids at the table. (The table we were at had 5 Big Guys.)
Post # 6
This is why I’m not assigning tables or doing a seating chart. I’ve got a million things on my mind and two million things to do to get ready.
A seating chart is at the bottom of that list. In fact, just now while typing, I’ve decided that the best they’re going to get from me is a kids table separate from the adult tables.
Post # 7
@Paigey: We thought about no assigned seating but I know our families would be very upset if people just ran in and took the good tables and they got stuck in the back. I know our families and it will be DRAMAZ if something like that happens!
Post # 8
10 can be a little tight, but if they like each other they should be fine. With my seating chart, I’m more concerned about the table of 6 … especially because the people at that table are the boring ones. An overly large table with just six boring people sitting at it … well, I’m sure they’ll just spend the whole time criticizing everything from the centerpieces to the food to the escort cards anyway (that’s why I don’t want to seat anyone else with them — a whole family of negative nancys shouldn’t rain on anyone else’s parade!). I’m sure they’ll be perfectly happy not to have any prying ears hearing their bitching.
Post # 9
@Paigey: As a parent of a 4 and 6 year old, I will say that my kids can’t/won’t eat at a kids’ table without me. FYI
Post # 10
@Legallyblondiebride: 10 will likely be tight, but it’s not the worst thing – and guests WILL survive. Just try to make the # of 10’s to the bare minimum! Also – it’s ok to sit strangers together. Just have at least one couple with another couple they know. I’ve sat at tables with only knowing one other set of people at the table (not including my date) and it was absolutely fine! (if that helps breaking up the tables).
ETA: any chance you can do a venue visit to see how the tables/chairs will work?
Post # 11
i am doing 21 tables of “10.” .i have the tables with all the guestlist in yellow if they rsvp yes- they get dehighlighted. if they rsvp no they get taken out of the chart competely, if i havent heard from them they remain yellow…my head table has 14 people siting at it.-rectangle.
i have 13 tables of ten.
3 tables of nine
2 tables of eight
1 table of seven
1 table of six
and one table that is not counted with guests since my mother decided that she will not tell me who she invited(she handed invites to people from her church and none have rsvp)
Post # 12
Dont panic! you’ll work it out. You know best who fits with who. Personally, I’d rather be rammed with people I know well than have space with strangers.
And I find it quite rude to not have assigned seating. It stresses guests out, splits families up etc. A bit like flying on a cheap airline in a group. Never fun! I think you’re right to do a plan, but go and see these tables and have a feel for it. Or if its far, ask them to take a photo with 10 chairs around the table.
Keep calm, you’ll get it right 🙂