Post # 1
My lovely mother is throwing a shower for me at Christmas, which was super nice of her to do. We have had a couple of hangs ups (I posted a while back about how she invited lots of extra people who were not invited to the wedding) but it seemed to be working out okay. But now a friend of mine who was invited to the shower mentioned she was attending to one of her friends who I have never gotten along with. I went to high school with this other person, and we just never saw eye to eye. But she looooooves being in everyone elses business. So to my horror, she messaged my mother and said she has made herself available that day and will be coming to my shower. My mother was shocked and didn’t really know what to say…my mother didn’t even invite this person!
I think I am just going to suck it up and be as polite as possible – but has anyone else been in a situation where someone they just reallllllllly didn’t like attended their shower?? I don’t understand why she wants to come at all – I even saw her last Christmas when I was home, and she saw me, and looked away! Not even a hello. So I just don’t get it.
Post # 3
Wow…the NERVE of that woman to say that to your mother. How incredibly inappropriate.
Post # 4
That’s so out of line! If you don’t care about upsetting her, I would maybe ask your mom to politely tell her she’s not invited. But if you decide to just put up with it, I don’t think she’s going to ruin your shower.
Post # 5
Yeah – can your mom call her and say something like she’s hoping to keep the shower a little smaller and the invitations have already gone out?
How incredibly rude and tacky…
Post # 6
uh.. rude a bit much? Your mother should just tell her straight up she’s not invited(mom’s can do things like that). Why does she even want to come? So strange..
Post # 7
I wouldnt allow someone i dont like at my shower but i guess if you dont mind then you should at least get a present out of it!
Post # 8
Isn’t it just sooo weird? My theory is that she will forget about it anyways…but I just DON”T understand why she wants to come in the first place??? She is certainly not invited to the wedding, that’s for sure.
Post # 9
Yeah she better bring a good present!
Since she invited herself maybe your mom could tell her what to get you.
or, you could tell her the the date has changed… the wrong date… on accident, of course. lol
Post # 10
I would tell your friend that she need not bring that guest. I dont care if its rude, if you dont like her, she shouldnt be there. end of story.
Post # 11
It was rude of this person to let your mother know she was coming without an invite, so I don’t think it would be rude to remind her that she wasn’t invited. Some people!
Post # 12
I would ask the mutual friend to politely let the chick know she wasn’t invited. Let your friend know that you understand that they are friends, however, you don’t have the same relationship with her
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
So weird. Sounds like she likes drama. I think it’d be easier to just let her show if she shows and don’t give her much attention. Sounds like she thrives on attention.
Post # 14
Maybe she’ll bring a nice present? Just kidding!
Some people have no tact at all. I’d let her know that she is not invited and that she’ll be escorted out if she shows up anyway.
Post # 15
Wow…I would not have your mother handle this. I think you should handle it Strait from the source so to speak. Don’t put your mom in the middle…