(Closed) This situation with MOB is eating me alive! Please Help!!!!!!!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 18
4095 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

@RedRose1979:  Honestly, i think the ONLY way this will get better is if you stop communicating through media. You and your mom need to sit down and just hash it all out. its NOT ok for her to forward your responses to others, because quite frankly its none of their business! This is between you and her, and it needs to stay that way. The only time other people should become involved is if you need advice on how to respond to a certain situation, but she shouldnt be sending your responses to others just to make you look bad. that behavior needs to stop pronto! I’m so sorry you’re dealing with all this, what a nightmare!

Post # 21
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@chercee:  I second this ENTIRE post a million times!!!  I too, am so sorry you’re going through this.  I was so sad and angry reading your post, I almost felt like it was happening to me!  It sounds like a situation you cannot get out of cleanly or have your family understand that you’re not the problem – people believe what they want to believe and most of the time, refuse to admit they’re wrong.  Continue being the better person – you have to choose whether or not it’s worth making an effort at this point anymore I feel.

Post # 22
3076 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@RedRose1979:  If you want to make you life better, immediatley stop texting, emailing, and responding to anyone’s messages. There is simply no point to it.

You are fueling the fire by doing everything you described.

The only person’s action you can control is your own. Start there.

Do you actaully SEE your mother to talk to her, do you visit her? Or is all of your communication via writing?


Post # 23
1008 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@RedRose1979:  Wow, your mom is an immature piece of work. The little martyr needs all the attention on her. Do not fake apologize! That will just be affirming that all the lies she told about you are true. She needs to be cut off–I understand that it’s difficult because you have young siblings, but her hissy fit is probably preventing you from seeing them anyway. Unless you want to repair the relationship with her, then you need to just let her go and be her crazy self. At this point I’m not even sure how you could go about repairing things with her unless you totally cave and grovel. Not worth it.

Have you tried talking to her face-to-face and gettsome her side of things?

Post # 24
7571 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Since every story has two sides and we are only hearing one here I am just going to base my response on what you wrote and it seems to me that both of you deserve a card and tiara for a 3 year old. You are both being as bad as each other. It seems like you are two peas in a pod. She isn;t speaking to me so I am not speaking to her. It is the behaviour of a 3 year old.

I think you need to stop being immature and start acting like an adult. Do not engage in these back and forths and all this trying to show family I am the one in the right and the other person is so mean crap.

Post # 25
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What does your father say about all of this?

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