Post # 1
I forgot how to go to confession. I was raised Catholic and went to mass every sunday until my senior year of high school (which was Catholic school btw). Now, I am getting married in the church and my Fiance is converting to Catholicism. I really want to go to mass every Sunday again and become part of the community. I know I am not supposed to receive communion since it has been years since I have been to confession. Is there a book or a website, or anything that will teach me how to do this again? I feel so stupid haha.
Post # 3
I think you just go to see a priest and you can let him know how long it has been, because they do ask that. then you just tell them what you have done wrong and then they give you penance to do. Just be honest and I am sure it will be okay. The priest doing our wedding said we need to go to confession before we get married since marriage is a sacrament. It scares me too.
Post # 4
You go in, kneel either behind the screen or in front of the priest, make the sign of the cross while saying “Forgive me Father, for I have sinned. It has been “insert time period” since my last confession.” The priest takes it from there. You tell him your sins. You say the Act of Contrition (sp?) He absolves you from your sins and gives you a penance. Do your penance back in the pew. I was raised Catholic. I have the Mass memorized….yeesh. Hope this helped a little!
Post # 5
Not stupid at all! It takes a lot of courage to go back. And you definitely won’t be the longest without confession a priest has ever heard.
Basically go in, kneel or sit, say “bless me father for I have sinned it has been x years since my last confession. these are my sins.”
Then he will talk with you a little bit about it and he might ask you to say the act of contrition. Its usually taped up somewhere in the confessional. Then he’ll say a prayer and give you a penance and say something like “Go in peace your sins have been forgiven.”
Then you’re done!
It’s helpful to do an examination of conscience before hand like this one: http://www.ourcatholicfaith.org/examinationofconscience.html. But don’t be intimidated by it or think “OH man I have so much to confess!” The priest doesn’t need to hear every single little thing you’ve ever done, pretty much just the big things and what you feel really guilty about. All your sins are forgiven in confession (unless you purposefully don’t confess something because you aren’t really sorry for it).
Good luck! And really even if you go in and say “I’m sorry but I have no idea what to do” they will talk you through it.
Post # 6
I was in the same position a few years ago. I had to have the priest walk me through it, he was very excited to get a little lost soul to help haha. I was so scared but now I love to go to Confession 🙂 Once you make it a habit you’ll be amazed at how easy (and healing) it is.
Busted Halo has a good sheet on How To Go to Confession here (pdf). You can print it out and take it with you. One thing I did in the beginning (and still do sometimes) is write out my sins on a post it note and keep it in my palm. I would get into the confessional and I would have so much adrenaline going that I would forget what I needed to say. Of course I destroy the post-it afterwards.
I always stay behind the screen/curtain, it’s so much less awkward that way. It also helps to write out an Act of Contrition (the Busted Halo print out goes over what to say for that) so you can just read it instead of trying to think of something appropriate to say.
By the way, welcome home 🙂
Post # 7
I remember reading recently that an ap was made to help walk people through confession – it helped you think of the sins you needed to confess. Personally I wouldn’t want to bust out my iPhone in confession, but I thought it was interesting!
Post # 8
Don’t wanna ask mommy and daddy?
Post # 9
Thanks everyone, this really helped!… except for….
@Sasha2011 whose comment came off a little rude to me.
Post # 10
@Sasha2011: Yeah, what do you mean by that?