(Closed) this sucks!

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If they say they will pay for their guest passes, then by all means, let them pay (especially if it is for breakfast the next day)!  I don’t think you should have to shell our more money than necessary! 

Post # 4
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s definitely okay to not pay $150 for their breakfast :P. I think I would let them pay for theirs the day of the wedding, too, if they happen to offer.

Post # 5
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9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yep, I think if they’re staying at another resort they probably worked it out that it would be cheaper for them.  Their choice shouldn’t necessarily cost you money.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m a little confused. So, if you friends do not stay at the same resort, you have to pay $150 each time they come to the resort and you were hoping that you would only have to do that once–for the wedding, right? 

If that’s the case, I would first try to bargain with the resort and explain that you have two guests that are coming to the wedding and you’d really like them to waive the guest pass fee. I mean, you ARE hosting a wedding at their resort. If they allow this, then you can pay the $150 for your friends’ breakfast. 

Also, how is the resort you are staying at priced comparatively with other resorts in the area? I’m’ asking just because it’s possible that your friend is opting to stay somewhere else to save money. If that’s the case, while it’s within your right to ask for the $150, just be sensitive to the fact that your guests are not only spending a lot of money in travel costs but also (probably) giving up vacation time from their work (and while yes, it’s not a bad rap to go to Jamaica for a wedding, Jamaica may not be their preferred destination for this year’s travel). If the friend is already strapped for cash and thereby staying somewhere cheaper, I might bite the bullet so they can attend breakfast. 

It may also be that your friend, in the interest of making the most of his/her travel to Jamaica wants to make the trip more of his/her own vacation, which is why s/he is opting to stay away from your wedding party, to have a bit more privacy/autonomy/independence.  That really doesn’t mean anything in terms of $150, but just an idea so you don’t get too bummed out about their not staying at your chosen resort. 

Post # 9
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1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Okay, so you have all the breakfast stuff figured out. I think what you said is fine and I think your friends will understand. 

And yes–you should NOT charge your friends the resort fee for attending the wedding (totally annoying when hotels tack on those extra fees!–I decided not to do my wedding at a resort because they were asking $60 a person in “resort fees” if people decided to stay after the official hours of the wedding–even if they were just going to hang out as temporary guests of people who were already staying at the hotel in their rooms! We didn’t feel right about being like, “Well, thanks for coming–now get off the hotel property”). But do call them–if it’s only 2 people, they might make an exception. 

Post # 11
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1749 posts
Bumble bee

@dynamic_duo:I would inquire about their savings at another hotel and offer to offset some of their fees for the wedding night only. I would do this in person over lunch or something. I would explain to them how expensive the passes are and how important it is to have them there. You would probably only pay half of that to help offset their room cost and they could attend breakfast too.

Post # 13
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2066 posts
Buzzing bee

Will the resort waive the guest fees?  Its worth asking.

I doubt your guests understand how steep the guest fees are.  If I were your guest, I’d estimate that guest fees are $20 per person not $75 per person.  Its possible they have no idea how much this is costing you.

Post # 14
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I also doubt your guests know about the high cost of guest passes, I would be up front and honest about that cost because I honestly think they have no idea (I was shocked by the cost!).  If they offer to pay, I think I would let them. Because what if you pay for theirs and then someone else books another hotel, too?  You don’t want to keep having this come up and be responsible for it.

Post # 15
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1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you should try and call the resort and see if you can work something out. I would think they would be pretty accomidating to a bride, especially if you only have two guests who need passes. I hate it say this, but if you are that tight, and the resoirt won’t budge on it maybe you could email them and just let them know you got a hold of the resort and asked about the guest passes and found out it would be an extra $150 and maybe you could split the cost?

Post # 16
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226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t think you should take the money if they offer to pay for the guest fees. They have already bought plane tickets, hotel rooms (wherever they can afford), food, and other expenditures to come to your wedding. What if the guest pass fee puts them over their financial limit, since they werent expecting it? That could be a very uncomfortable situation.

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