(Closed) This sucks. Short rant.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I hope things go well for your Fiance when he goes to talk to his parents. If they are not paying for anything, have the wedding you want. It is your special day. His parents already had theirs. Keep your chin up 🙂

Post # 4
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3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Your day, not theirs. Just keep remembering that.

Post # 5
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4952 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@WillyNilly:  exactly. Don’t let anyone pressure you. Your money, your wedding, your decision.

Post # 6
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Just remember you pull the ultimate rank here. You are the bride.

When people start getting pushy about my plans, I’ve started just saying “And when can I expect your check?”

Post # 7
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8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Screw them… elope!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Just like others have said- it’s your day with your FH! Try not to let them pressure you into anything you don’t want. Whenever I get that kind of push back, I shut it down immediately and then change the subject. It’s about the love between you and him, not about who can invite the most guests from their side.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Virtual hugs for you.  We had a lovely wedding for less than 40 people and I’m SO GLAD we didn’t invite more and make it a bigger deal.

Post # 12
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1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ugh what the hell is this spotlight that everyone keeps talking about?! And demanding that return your dress so they can invite more people you don’t want?! Non-guests telling you where to have your wedding?! What a nightmare I’m sorry. On the bright side your Fiance is finally standing up to them and at least your parents are cool about it!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I get that this sucks that people are treating you this way. But if they aren’t contributing, they can take their opinions and shove it. Sit down with your fiancé and plan the wedding you guys want – don’t let others pressure you, even though its hard!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@sept22insf:  Playing devil’s advocate here, but: tons of brides buy into the notion of “my day to shine” and “it’s all about the bride,” and complain about other people “stealing their thunder” or “their spotlight/limelight” if they get engaged/pregnant/announce an engagement or pregnancy/choose a wedding date too close to the bride’s, etc. … and (while I’m personally skeptical of the whole thing), if the bride is in the spotlight, the groom ought to be, too. The bride and groom share the day, neither should outshine the other.

To clarify: I do think it stinks that the FI’s family is trying to hijack the wedding plans, but I don’t think they are wrong to be proud of their son and want him to have a nice wedding and get lots of attention. That’s all.

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