- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2012
So, I don’t tell a lot of people about how quickly I moved emotionally in regards to previous relationships. In fact, I don’t really tell people much about this in general.
I was married before. I fell in love with the wrong person, who used me, abused me and destroyed my self esteem. I stayed faithful to him regardless of the fact that he liked to go over to his ex gf’s house ALONE for hours at a time. If I ever objected in anyway I was accused of manipulation and being controlling. He would intentionally keep me from food because he thought I was fat, and we lived in squalor, simply because he didn’t want to get a full time job.
On May 24th of last year he left me and was engaged before our divorce was even final.
I went on with life, and met the most incredible man I have yet to. He treats me with so much respect sometimes I don’t feel like I even deserve it. On February 25th 2012 we got married in a very simple ceremony and have been happy ever since.
Now, a lot of people were absolutely shocked at quickly I got engaged post-divorce. I can see where they can get that, but I made a lot of huge changes after the split. I go my full certification in Phlebotomy, won first place in a major art competition in my city, and became fully active in my church once again. Besides, if someone is in love, and GENUINELY good for eachother, then why not get married.
We waited for eachother until our wedding night, eventhough we’d both been married before, and it was one of the best decisions we made.
For a few minutes yesterday, when I realized it was the day my ex left me, I felt a little sad. Then I rolled over in bed where my husband was sleeping before work and felt truly happy. It was amazing. I don’t understand why people got really upset about me getting married quickly. I waited until my divorce was fully final before I ever even THOUGHT about dating, it wasn’t like I cheated or anything.
I’m sorry for how long this is, but has anyone else experienced this? I know what I did was right, and I’m happier than I have EVER been, and my scumbag of an ex husband has kind of fallen off of the deep end from what others have told me. I do not dwell on him, and I’m moving on happily with the love of my life who really wants to be married to me and put effort into our love. Does that all make sense?