Post # 1
Well, on the inside, anyway. I’m trying so hard not to pester SO and I’ve done such a good job. It’s been about 3 weeks since I have even brought up the topic of marriage or engagement, but just knowing the “deadline” (he said before the end of the year) is swiftly approaching, is making me want to start asking questions. Waahhhh!! I just wanna know everything!!!!
I know keeping busy is the best way to get my mind off of it but I am recently unemployed and have a lot of time on my hands. and during that time, I end up looking at ring porn and watching proposals on YouTube. HELP!! What helped you with your waiting?
Post # 3
Sad to say…nothing. I’m also end of the year deadline, and it’s KILLING ME! He wants to surprise me, which is going to be about impossible because I expect it always. There’s no special events (other than his brithday) coming up, so whatever he does, it’s going to be out of the ordinary, and I’m going to see it coming.
I’m just hanging around and hoping for the best and praying for some sort of patience. Good luck to you.
Post # 4
Girl I feel the same way! My man also said before the end of the year. Originally a slip up let me know it would be December, but now its supposedly going to be sooner??
I’m going crazy- and I have a hard time not bringing it up to him too!
Post # 5
I feel you! SO said sometime this fall, but I know that as of Saturday, he has the ring. This kind of waiting (knowing it could happen at any second) is SO MUCH WORSE, at least for me. I’ve literally gone crazy the last few days – and SO seems to think it’s hilarious.
I am doing the SIU pact from now until I’m proposed to, despite the fact that I want to ask literally 8 million questions. And as for not going crazy? I’m just trying to keep as busy as I can.
Good luck, the end is in sight!
Post # 6
My SO and I talk about marriage very often, but I steer clear of the giant elephant in the room–the proposal. We already have a tentative date. He has initiated engagement talk a couple times, but I don’t want him to feel pestered or anything. I have a feeling it will be soon, heck he’s had my ring for a couple months, but I don’t ask. He let it slip that we will be engaged by his birthday in March. I think it will be much sooner.
I’m freaking out on the inside, but I stay calm on the outside. WB is a great way for me to get out my thoughts!
Post # 7
I know exactly how you feel! My SO should be proposing soon as we have already decided to tie the knot in May of 2014! I think I should have kept my mouth shut but since we were toying with the idea of a DW (Cancun etc.) I thought I should let my important people know so they can budget it in. Now I am constantly hearing everyone’s ideas and my mom and step dad apparently can’t attend a DW unless its in Vegas and so I decided to be nice and do a JOP ceremony and nice dinner for our familes and now my Mom says the JOP isn’t good enough and we need to look at venues. Keep in mind I’m paying 100%.
I don’t feel like I can call venues as I am not actually engaged and once I am engaged at least I can put these fires out one at a time or be able to finally say this is what is happening you can come or not. End of stoy.
I think my SO thinks things magically happen overnight so he does not seem concerned about planning. I admit we are doing very, very small but some dresses take months to come in and I’m a tax preparer so between mid February-April 15th I will not be available to do anything wedding related.
SO constantly makes comments like you will be such a great wife, I’m so excited for May and I am like well lets get this show on the road! I suspect he’s planning something and I’ll admit in years from now I would love a cute story but right now it would be so much easier just to be engaged!
Post # 8
Ahh… I totally understand!
I know my SO has my ring, we went ring shopping twice and on the second time we both ended up falling in love with one and I was told to go away while he proceeded to make the purchase, etc.
That was almost 3 weeks ago.
A day or so after, he asked me what my timeline was for a proposal.. I simply asked that he not make me wait too long (since we have discussed a summer wedding in 2014, it only makes sense). He ended up telling me it would be within about a month. I have been super patient but we will be out of town alone together this weekend and I can’t help but wonder if this might be it!
Post # 9
This is all soooooo helpful! It’s good to know I’m not alone in this case. It’s killing me that I don’t know if he’s bought the ring yet or what’s going on! He is an open book but I just can’t seem to read him on this! He’s being so secretive about it and just telling me to “leave it up to [him].”
I guess we will have to wait and see!
Hopefully us ladies don’t have to wait too much longer…
I know that once December comes and I am not yet engaged, I’m probably going to lose it. December is my deadline. You know. The dreaded deadline. The one where you decide whether or not to stay in this super duper awesome, fantastical relationship at its super duper awesome, fantastic level of comfort, or, leave SO because you’ve been together for 6.5 years and SO said “the end of the year” and that’s kind of already happening but you still don’t have a ring on your finger… yeah.
Good luck, ladies!