- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
people choose go on these boards to talk about/read about weddings!
…as opposed to real life, where, honestly, not everyone wants to hear every minutia of your wedding planning. No really. Not everyone wants to talk about your wedding for 20 minutes every day.
I say this after an experience with a relative’s fiance this past weekend, and after reading lots of posts on this board about challenged friendships and fights and “jealously”. I hung out with this relative and his fiance for about an hour. 57 minutes of which was her talking about HER WEDDING. Now, I’m engaged too, so don’t get me wrong, I’m beyond excited… and I love telling people about my planning process…
Consider this a bit of a warning/public service announcement. If your friends and people around you are getting annoyed with you, defriending you on facebook, avoiding you, etc, don’t automatically fall back on “oh they’re just jealous”. I am not jealous of the girl marrying my cousin – because umm… he’s my cousin, and I’m happily engaged myself.
Just consider the fact that you might possibly be oversharing and talking about your wedding a little too much. In general, your friends do not find your ribbon color choices as riveting and fascinating as you do. Your mom – maybe your best friend – sister – etc, sure… but other than a select few, keep your wedding chat to a minimum.
You will find that helps you in a couple of ways – 1 – people will be more apt to ask you how things are going if you haven’t been talking about it incesstantly for 5 months, and 2 – people will be more excited about your wedding if they don’t already know every. single. detail, and most importantly, 3 – people will not be rolling their eyes and avoiding you.
I’m not trying to be preachy, I have to monitor myself too, which is why these boards are such a great thing. I say this as an almost 30 year old, most of my friends and several of my relatives are now married, a few already divorced, etc. I’ve had a friend/relative or two who no one could stand being around for the months leading up to her wedding, and trust me, it wasn’t because we were jealous… it was because there are only so many conversations you can have about wedding dresses. Seriously.
So if you have an impulse to gush about your wedding, thats what these boards are for. Otherwise, a rule of thumb is to only bring it up when people ask you questions about your planning, and to keep it short and sweet. And for the love of Dog, no one, not even your mother, needs or wants to see your wedding day countdown each day on your facebook status. You’ll feel better about things later when one of your friends or relatives gets wedding-psycho and you have this inner dialogue thats all “Jesus H Christmas, was I this annoying when I was engaged?” and you can proudly and confidently answer yourself “Nope, yay!”
Happy Planning 🙂