(Closed) this wedding continues to b a nightmare…vent

posted 6 years ago in October 2012
Post # 3
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577 posts
Busy bee

I say cut your losses and elope. Yes, you lose the deposits (which sucks) but spending a couple thousand instead of several thousand will probably be better in the long run. It sounds like you have a lot of family/friend drama, you’re about to lose your job, and you’re pregnant. If it were me, I’d forget about the wedding, just go get married (the two of you) and start preparing for the baby. Good luck.

And what kind of venue were you using that needs people’s SSNs? That is crazy to me.

Post # 4
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998 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@prettynewpenny:  She said they were getting married on base and they changed their security clearance.

 

OP: Congrats on your upcoming marriage and your pregnancy. Out of all the bad things that have happened I think your pregnancy with your soulmate is awesome and a silver lining. Good luck….it will all work out in the end.

Post # 5
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871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

oh hugs honey! It will all be ok. All that matters is that you and your Fiance and a celebrant are there. NOTHING else matters!

Post # 6
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2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would just elope if I were you.  That’s a whole lotta stress and you and the baby do not need that.  Just relax, go marry your love with just you, him, and the officiant and call it a day.  Go relax somewhere and forget about the drama!  *hugs*

Post # 8
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35 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@shawndy:  what/where is the base you are holding your venue and why do they need SSNs? that does not sound right to me. at all. SSNs are PII, and even in the military, unless absolutely necessary, we don’t/no longer provide our full social security number.

sorry for all the drama, but you must NOT lose sight of what’s important. you are finaly getting married to the man you love, and you both are about to have your first child and start your own family… like some of the BEEs suggested, elope if you can, save that money for when the baby comes or a down payment to a house.

 

*hugs*

Post # 10
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2073 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@shawndy:  I got married on a submarine base in Point Loma, CA and our guests didn’t need to provide SSN.  We just had to give the base everyone’s full legal name and told guests to have ID & proof of car registration/insurance in case a 100% ID check was in place.  Vendors needed to provide driver’s license numbers, birthdates, and car make/model, license plate info.

Did they give you a reason why they changed the security requirements?  I hope you at least were able to get your deposit back.

Like another bee mentioned, I’d eat the deposits and elope.  Prepare for your upcoming baby and maybe plan a spectacular vow renewal ceremony at 5 years or 10 years.  Your wedding is supposed to be about celebrating such a special day for you and your Fiance…not refereeing family drama.  Elope and enjoy your day with your Fiance.

Post # 11
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927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

So sorry all of this has happened to you! I agree with the others, lose the deposits and elope, just invite your immediate families so your dad can walk you down the aisle : ) It’s a shame to waste the money, but I think you’ll be happier having a stress free wedding. Maybe you could see if they could put your deposits toward a 1yr anniversary party? Congrats on your growing family!!

Post # 12
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2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

OMG that does sound like a nightmare.  Hope it all comes together and you have a beautiful wedding in the end.

And just fyi, I would not pay for my wedding party attire at the expense of not having a DJ: I would just not have  awedding party.  Sorry you have so much to deal with.

Post # 14
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2359 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would cut my losses and elope!

Post # 15
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2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i agree with losing the deposits and eloping! Sounds like a lot of negative energy you don’t want or need around you at this point in your lives!!  As for the dress, you probably won’t even be showing at 4 months! It may still fit fine, especially if its a corset back!   And congrats on the little one 🙂

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