(Closed) This week, because I'm CFBC, I…

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  • Post # 76
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    glitterati :  What I mean’t myself. Just you explained it much MUCH better. I actually used to have that attitude when I was younger about certain things. Then over time I felt like I was being a bit pompous posting things that generally “tooted my own horn” to everyone on social media.

    Post # 77
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    We cannot have ONE SINGLE thread without CFBC bashers stepping in on the very first comment, omg. 

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    Post # 80
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    rosydelight :  It all feels very kanye west. “Ima let you finish talking about your CFBC lifestyles, but first…”

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    glitterati :  Completely, 100% (yet respectfully) disagree with you. I understand this is the case in some places but not most places in the U.S. anymore. I myself was brought up with NO sex education whatsoever (unless you count an all-girls class once where we were taught to shout “no!” to sexual advances as sex ed). I grew up in the worst neighborhood in my state, on one of the poorest, most violent streets. I’m still not rich. Yet I chose to be CFBC. I chose when I was a little girl, I stood my ground through my teenage years, and I’m still CFBC as an adult. 

    So your post is actually kind of a slap in the face to people like me. I had no priviledges. That fact highly factored into making that choice. 

    Oh, and ah, didn’t know we all had to give a daily run-down of our day to “justify” our free time and extra cash. Next time, I’ll make sure to run it by the breeding police. 

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    itsachickenwingthing :  Just an FYI, these “Because I’m CFBC, this week I was able to do…” is a common theme on pretty much all CFBC forums. Many of them have weekly, repeatedly threads based on that. OP doesn’t deserve to be attacked for this. It’s a popular idea she thought would do well here. Seems like most Bees are not “in the know” and hoenstly, I’ve never been on another forum where CFBC is shamed like it is here. 

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    I’m not really sure how bringing up the positives about not having any kids means having a pompous attitude. I think a lot of anti cfbc bees are fine with the childfree as long as we shut up about it and we shouldn’t be happy about it FFS. It’s ok to talk about how parenting is the greatest joy ever and how much joy your kids bring you but the childfree need to keep their happiness in check. It’s ok, though. Me being happy that I’m not a parent doesn’t mean you can’t be happy you’re a parent. You don’t have to floince into every thread shouting, I can do that AND I have kids!!!! Or flounce in whining about how we’re being so inclusive because we’re not talking about awesome kids are.  

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    DaniGirl03 :  

    I agree that you aren’t CFBC but you have never said that you are. 

    You just feel that you identify with us. Why would CFBC Bees have a problem with allies? 

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    rosydelight :  I just can’t figure out how there is CFBC Shaming, though? Not from me at least. 

    What I do know, and this is applicable in life in general, that you are going to predictably get lashback for posting this type of stuff regardless of your lifestyle. And that has been my point in general. Can rub anyone wrong from any background/walk of life.

    And you can “bring up the positives” easily without bringing up CFBC. Because honestly anyone, child or not, can do the same things. So yes. That is pompous. Just say “I had a bad ass weekend… what about about you!”

    Post # 86
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    It is the PICTURE OF POMPOSITY to demand that others refrain from having positive discussions about their lifestyles. I’ll say it again-the insecurities of certain Bees with kids are not our problem. They need to deal with that themselves. CFBC Bees will continue to enjoy our threads and our lives. Deal with it. 

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    itsachickenwingthing :  But why does it matter if some CFBC’s attitudes come across as “pompous”? Does it really bother everyone so much that they have to come to a thread to complain? So many parents have nauseating attitudes about how their life is complete and they now know *true* love and sacrifice because they have children (implying that child free people are not capable of true love). We have to deal with that grossness all the time IRL, plus we get to constantly have people tell us how we feel is “wrong” and that we’ll end up changing our minds. I haven’t been married that long but I have already experienced SO much judgement for not wanting kids, it’s ridiculous. We have to deal with it on a daily basis on top of mothers gushing about how great their kids & motherhood is, so why is it so terrible that child free people can gush about vacations, being able to buy things, etc?

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    RobbieAndJuliahaha :  Can you please just leave me alone? I have tried to be polite I have tried to be civil. And yet here you are again!

    Your attitude about me is pretty disgusting and yet here you are again. Whining about me! 

    Is your life really that empty that you feel the need to bash someone who hasn’t done anything to you? Hasn’t interacted with you? If your life is that miserable that you need to intentionally bash me why don’t you do something about it. 

    I’m sorry I don’t poop sunshine and rainbows about parenting and wanted to talk with bees with similar interests. None of that makes me a bad person at all. I apologized to OP and stated I would be more respectful of their CFBC threads. I understand that I thought I was welcome to discuss with them our shared interests and some of them would prefer I not participate in their conversations, I’m happy to respect that.

    So why don’t you make a choice for yourself to not interact with me if you don’t like what I do or say instead of personally attacking me?

    Post # 89
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    Throwing in the towel! LOL.

    DaniGirl03 :  I was being facetious earlier when I said CFBC club comment to you. Sorry. 

    Post # 90
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    itsachickenwingthing :  I understand that I’m not CFBC, I understood what you were trying to say. I’m not CFBC, I’ve never said I am. I just enjoy having a place to talk to adults about other adult things, I don’t exactly fit on the TTC boards and parenting boards. I’m just in a different place. I also don’t want to intrude. I thought me chatting to other CFBC bees wasn’t a big deal, and I asked up front about it before participating in the conversation. It’s clear that some of the CFBC bees would prefer that no parents intrude on their threads, including me, so I’ll read, relate and move on. It’s not complicated for me to respect their threads.

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