(Closed) This whole concept is bullshit and it makes me angry.

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 77
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2247 posts
Buzzing bee

@trueblue14:  The funny thing is that I don’t think this “waiting” situation would have happened quite like this during that time. 

The waiting that so many of these ladies are doing is not quite the waiting that was done before. In many ways, some of the ladies on Weddingbee are putting up with and allowing things that ladies of that time wouldn’t have. 

Post # 78
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2664 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@musician32992:  I find the whole idea of waiting ridiculous to begin with. However, I also think there’s also a lot of times when the men are ready and the women aren’t. This website just happens to be biased lol. 

Post # 80
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2393 posts
Buzzing bee

@sostobe:  Good Lord, do you even like men?  I mean as people in general?  You seem to generalize them all as the same (and not just on this thread).  It’s down right condescending.  They aren’t all infantile and require the molly coddling you seem to think they do. 


Wow, that’s harsh (backing away slowly).

I didn’t pick that up from @This Time Round:‘s comments at all…

Relax, breathe in and breathe out … this is a wedding chat board, not a gladiator arena. LOL

Post # 81
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1243 posts
Bumble bee

@Bette_Noire:  +10

This is what my Fiance and I did. We had a conversation, came to an agreement, and boom. Engaged. 

Post # 82
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273 posts
Helper bee

I agree it’s bullshit. No one is making you put up with it, though. I don’t see how any woman with any self esteem can consider herself “waiting” in the weddingbee-waiting-support-thread sense in 2013- either you’ve made a mutual decision not to get engaged yet for whatever reason (in which case you’re BOTH waiting, you’ve decided it’s worth waiting and you don’t need emotional support) or you lack the self esteem to be an equal and active participant in your relationship.

I actually don’t think it’s “bullshit” for the man to see the proposal as his job, if we’re just talking about the actual event of a proposal. But I do think there should be an acknowlegement society-wise that “deciding to get engaged” and “a proposal” are two different things, and that the first isn’t somthing that should be the sole domain of either partner.

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