(Closed) This whole thing is a roller coaster! FMIL rant…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I think you definately need some distance between you and your Future Mother-In-Law. Maybe living together and all the wedding disagreements is just building, is there anyway the two ofyou can move out ASAP?

As far as wedding planning goes, quit talking to her about it. If she tells people things tht aren’t true, so be it. They willknow what time everything starts when they get their invitations. Make dcisions between you and Fiance and whe she asks tell her what the two of you have already chosen. Unless she is paying, keep her on a need to know basis.


Post # 5
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

The only thing that matters is what the invitations say the time of the wedding is, what she tells people is just word of mouth.  Guests don’t show up on word of mouth they depend on the invitations. I would not worry about what she tells anyone or says; just remember no matter what she “says” it’s you two who decide.  My Future Mother-In-Law talked some smack to me about a few things as well I got all angry about but in the end it was not worth the anger I did exactly what I wanted regardless. J

Post # 8
1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

One word:distance!

Is there any way you and your Fiance can move out sooner?

AND…this is YOUR wedding. You set the rules!

Post # 10
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh goodness! I hope you find an apartment very very soon. But don’t rush into one just to get away from her. 😉

She can say the wedding is at 7 in the morning. It doesn’t matter. It’s all about what gets put on the invitations. She isn’t paying for anything, so I would just blow her off. Laugh At her if you need to. Maybe then she’ll get the point. Especially laugh when she goes on about changing the date. “Oh you really should move the wedding to October 10th.” “*laugh* Oh, Future Mother-In-Law, that is just too funny since we have our vendors & venue reserved for the date We Actually Want. You are too funny sometimes. “

Post # 12
4476 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This isn’t a Future Mother-In-Law issue.  This is a Fiance issue.  It’s a Fiance issue because he should be standing up to her, and he isn’t.  If he’s not standing up for you now, you guys need a serious talk, because this isn’t going to get any better.  Unfortunately you have to suck it up a bit while you’re living with her.  Since she”s not paying for the wedding, then whatever she’s telling people doesn’t matter; the invitations will tell people what time they’re showing up.

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