Post # 1
I read this and immediately thought of weddingbee: http://nypost.com/2013/09/24/i-wooed-my-man-with-a-sandwich/
Reasons why I find this lady and her project ridiculous:
1. From a couple of other articles I read, I’m not sure this women is a hundred percent serious and she clearly is attention whoring in the hopes of getting a book deal and possible turning it into a movie. It reeks of phoniness.
2. It trivializes marriage(ack I never thought I be one to say that) but making a guy a sandwich is not a big deal the way it is framed and discussed in her article is really sad and unfortunate. If the guy you are with wakes up and the first thing he says to you in the morning is “you been awake 15 minutes and you haven’t made a sandwich” quite frankly he isn’t marriage material.
3. What special thing is he doing to show his love and I guess earn an engagement since she clearly has too?
4. This reeks of desperation, I feel bad for a lot of ladies who don’t claim their power, and get into this struggle and dynamic where the men in their lives are constantly making them wait and dangling an engagement over their head. IF this guy isn’t ready to get married he needs to be clear about it and give her a timeline, and stop being ridiculous.
5. I do think while it’s just an article from what I observed for a lot of people it’s emblematic of a lot of women who enter relationships, have a great one with their partner, yet seem to have to prove their worthiness in being given a great big shiny ring. To me it’s distasteful and getting married should be a happy thing, where both partners have a voice and make the choice together from a place of power. I witness so many friends and family go through the awful waiting game, and even if their spouse is a good guy, have his head blow up and go on a power trip. I honestly don’t know how someone still decided to marry a guy after he puts her through all that but hey thats just me, I was in that position and I walked away.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
All I could think when I read that article was ‘misogyny is alive and well’.
Post # 4
Yeah, I saw this yesterday and have been bothered by it ever since. Not only is the idea of conditioning a proposal on sandwiches weird and creepy, but what kind of guy even *jokingly* wakes up every single morning and asks for a sandwich? That would get old, fast. And the fact that she thinks she needs to prove her worth by sandwich-making is just pathetic.
But I’ll admit that I’m dying to know what happens after sandwich #300. Will he actually propose?! Guess I’ve gotta wait another few months to find out. 🙁 lol
Post # 5
@thejucheidea: Exactly. Between this and that Real Housewife’s new book, he-man woman-hating is appearing to be trendier now more than ever.
Post # 6
I’d make those damn sandwiches, and once I got the ring…. KNUCKLE SANDWICH TO THE FACE, WHAT THE CRAP?!
(haha I’m just kidding… wanted to say “knuckle sandwich” because hey… it’s a sandwich, right!)
No honestly I would just never stay in a relationship like that, it’s just ridiculous.
Post # 7
@TwoCityBride: Never been a “waiting” bee so I can’t really give any input on this. The pear and turkey club looks delicious though.
Post # 8
@TwoCityBride: all I can say on his behalf is that at least he is a good cook.
Post # 9
They were talking about this on the radio today- with general consensus that it was just horrendous and the radio hosts asked ‘what have other people done to get engaged?’
this poor girl rang up and said that her Boyfriend or Best Friend told her that if she dropped down to 60kg he would propose – wait it gets worse- then he broke up with her- and they have just got back together after 6 months because she is trying to get down to 60kg. This poor poor girl sounded like she was only a teenager 🙁
Post # 10
I heard of this yesterday and my knee jerk reaction was to say it seems a bit desperate… but then I lightened up a bit and realized it’s probably all in good fun.
Post # 11
@TwoCityBride: Yikes!!!!! I just don’t know about this article. Don’t get me wrong-I’ve heard of the ‘engagement chicken recipie’ and I very much enjoy cooking AND my boyfriend loves my cooking and is always complimenting me on it. He will even turn down a night of eating chinese out with his friends when he knows I’m cooking lol-this happened last night when I told him I was making sheppards pie because that’s what I WANTED, not him lol.
But if I felt like I HAD TO or if he would make comments like ‘Maybe I’ll marry you one day if you keep cooking like this’, UGH it would ruin it for me. Because I do want to get married. Because we talk about marriage all the time. I’m glad that he sees cooking as something that he values that I do, and not something that I have to do so that maybe he will want to marry me.
I will say this-whenver I offer to make my Boyfriend or Best Friend a sandwich he has gotten excited before. Like ‘REally, you will make me a sandwich’ lol maybe there is just something about it.
Also…..He better propose after all this news or he will be the MOST HATED MAN in the culinary industry UGH
Post # 12
I’m going to reluctantly go against the grain here – I think it’s kind of fun. It is certainly a fun perspective for a blog, and would turn into a great cookbook. This doesn’t come close to being as bad as the Housewife book.
That being said, I do feel like there are sexist undertones, as in “Hey, go and make me a sandwich,” but I feel like the media has gotten a hold of this, and spun it into something it shouldn’t be. This is the culture we live in – let’s take something that is fairly harmless, and make a big deal out of it.
I certainly hope it’s tongue-in-cheek. And if she can leverage this into 15 minutes of fame, good for her – based on her pictures, those sandwiches look delicious. At least she has some sort of discernable talent, which is a lot more than I can say for that Housewife “author.”
Post # 13
I read this article yesterday, and I skimmed through her blog. He really comes across as a not so nice guy. I read a few of her posts where she describes his behaviour and I was like ‘Yiiiiiiikes! DTMFA, girl!’
That said – I’m pretty sure her blog is just a ploy to get a book deal, but maybe she doesn’t realize how he is coming across. I feel like she needs an intervention, How I Met Your Mother style.
Post # 14
I read this article this morning and I was so…disgusted. She could do WAY better, not just in a guy who’s not a douche, but someone who’s actually attractive.
Post # 15
Looks to me like she took an offhand comment that he made as a token of appreciation (even though he seems like a dbag- if my FH ever said “you’ve been awake for 15 min, make me a sandwich I’d laugh in his face) and blew it WAY out of proportion.
She seems pathetic and hungry for attention.
Post # 16
@mgol25: The media didn’t get a hold of it, she did a photoshoot and an interview. I have a little more respect for her if she actually own her ambition, once you put something out in the world you can’t control how people react to her. At the end of the day I think it’s bigger then a “joke” and her making him sandwiches.