Post # 1
I love the birthday notifications, so I don’t forget important birthdays (although I do have a calendar with all of them anyway). But not today.
My American grandmother (dad’s mum) passed away in January at the ripe old age of 91. It was fairly quick, she was quite healthy but then she got a virus that was going around. She got worse and worse before passing away. Luckily there was time for Dad to fly over and be with her in those last days.
We had already booked a trip to the U.S. which included several days with her. This was changed and instead of seeing her we went to her memorial. Instead of time with her and two of my dad’s sisters in a cabin, it was all three of my dad’s sisters, my aunt’s husband, no Grandma and us going through her stuff.
I knew her birthday was coming, I even told my mother about it last night when I saw it on my calendar – October 9th. But today I was just playing a game on my phone and the notification popped up (she had Facebook and the profile is still there). I almost lost it on the bus.
I am feeling pretty miserable so I just wanted to reach out. Luckily I have work for most of the day to distract me.
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2016 - Little Chapel of Flowers
I know exactly how you feel. My phone reminded me this morning that it was my mom’s birthday. I lost her almost 2 years ago. I would have remembered when I saw the date at work, but first thing ing the morning definately effected my mood all day.
Post # 3
Jacqui90: My best friend died suddenly 3 1/2 years ago when he was 23. Every year his birthday pops up on facebook and for a split second, I always forget he’s gone. I immediately go to text or call him until it hits me “oh yeah…” I spend the rest of the day thinking about him, happy memories and silently wish him a happy birthday. Sometimes it’s hard but I’m glad to be reminded of his birthday, how old he would be today. Gives me a reason to spend a day with him in my thoughts.
Post # 4
I got a birthday reminder on Facebook for a high school friend and promptly wished her a “happy birthday, enjoy your day” message. Then I decided to read her page and see what she’d been up to lately. As it turned out she’d passed away from breast cancer 2 years prior. she was so young and had two little girls. I felt so upset. I believe Facebook now has a function for profiles of deceased people – so you can still see their pictures but stop notifications about them.
Post # 5
lilredcat: what an awkward, sad situation. That function makes sense and is definitely a good idea.
Sending you all internet hugs! It sucks losing someone and then having that reminder.