(Closed) Those of u who live far away from ur family how do u cope?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

i’m so sorry for your loss. i’ll say a prayer for you and your family tonight before i go to bed.

i’m also far from family. i’m currently about 500 miles from my family, and Fiance is 2700 miles from his (he moved here to be with me). it’s hard. he hasn’t seen his parents since june 2012. and we last saw my parents in january. we’ll be moving back to where my parents are, at least until after the wedding. then we’ll figure out where we’re gonna end up.

i skype with my mom a lot. and i talk to my brother on facebook, and my dad via text. it helps me to not feel as disconnected from them. Fiance calls his parents a lot, but it’s really hard for him. he’s an only child, so his mother is very protective of him and kinda clingy.

Post # 4
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

First, I’m so sorry for your loss – that’s such a nightmare.


To answer your question, I’ll just do the best I can of it. Some day’s it’s not a problem, others I miss them so much it hurts. Social media really helps a lot though. I use facebook and dropbox with my little brother, Skype, email and my blog for my parents & grandma. For my best friends and bridesmaids I’ll use WhatsApp. Without that, I would have moved back to Europe a long time ago. As it’s now, I’m far away, and I can only see them maximum 2 times a year, but I can at least keep in contact with them in between!

Post # 5
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am very sorry for your loss

I am also far away from all of my family and a 12 hour time difference so it can be quite hard to find a time to talk with them. Thank goodness for whatsapp and BBM, Facebook lets me see whats going on with them in there daily life.

We do one trip home a year so we start planning that very early and for me personally atleast knowing the next dates we will be home and seeing our family makes being so far away easier.

Also my SO and I discuss a lot about homesickness and we know what to look for in each other and what things sort of make us feel a bit better. It can be as simple as going to the western grocery store and surprising the other with there favourite chocolate bar or a candy!

Post # 6
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Sorry for your loss, it must be hard being so far away. I live about 700 km from my family, and though I have grown apart from them ( emotionally) I still find it hard to be so far away. I haven’t seen my dad in about 2 years, and I last saw my mom about a year ago. I call my mom about 3 times a week, and I don’t talk on the phone to my dad very often at all.  I get really angry that they don’t make more of an effort to come visit, as I work full time and in school part time so time doesn’t permit me taking long trips anywhere, meanwhile they are both retired and have all the time in the world, but that’s another post lol…

Post # 7
699 posts
Busy bee

I am sorry for your loss. 

I live 10000 miles from my family since 2009, and it is sometimes makes me feel homesick. My parents come to my place once a year for 2 weeks, but it is definitely not enough. Video chat with my parents, chat, facebook about friends and relatives do help. My study keeps me really busy so I rarely have time to feel homesick. Trying make new friends and befriending my husband’s friends also too. Also, if you can make your own food/anything that your family/mom made, that also helps a lot. Try ask her for recipes. 

Post # 8
4659 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorry to hear about the loss. It’s rough.

I live around 7000 miles (11,000 km) from my family and friends. Most of the time it’s easy, but in moments like that, it really is hard. I mail them things, they mail me things, we use skype. That’s about all I can offer though. I don’t see them much, since I don’t generally have the few thousand dollars it takes to visit lying around.

Post # 10
2324 posts
Buzzing bee

Sorry if hear about your loss. These accidents seem to be happening more often :/

I live in Adelaide, & family is in Sydney. I don’t think i cope well at all but i try. I speak to mum every day & the rest every so often. The one thing this has taught we is that i know who my true friends are!

Where are you living? (vs where is home?)

Post # 11
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@lleello: +1

Whenever I feel extra homesick I cook food that my mum or grandma would make, that really helps! If it’s bad – Fi puts me in the car and we drive to IKEA (I’m Swedish). 🙂

I really miss my parents & little brother – but the hardest thing is being far away from my grandma. She’s 84 years old and I feel awful and so guilty not being close to her…

Post # 12
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@bride202:  I’m so sorry for your loss.

I also live far away from my family (they all live 1000+ miles away), but close to my fiance’s parents (they live about 20 minutes away from us).  We’re close with his parents, so we do see them pretty regularly.

It is hard for me to be away from my family at times, though.  My grandmother (we were very close) passed away from cancer several years ago, and I hated that I was away when it happened.  I was able to book a flight the next day, but I felt so terrible that I wasn’t there near the end.

My grandfather has dementia, and my mom and uncle have placed him in an assisted living facility.  The place is very nice, but it’s still a weird feeling to know that he’s not living in his home any longer.  My mom visits him almost every day, and sometimes I feel so guilty that I can’t be there to help her deal with the stress.

I think the only way I really cope is just making sure I’m able to talk to them often (either via text or phone call).  We send each other pictures a lot of the time … This has been especially true for my cousin and I lately, as we’re both getting married this fall and will be bridesmaids in one another’s weddings.  We’re constantly sending each other pictures of dress ideas, flower ideas, etc.

Unfortunately, we’re not able to see each other that often due to conflicting schedules, time off issues, and plane ticket expenses (tickets usually range between $350-$450, so if my fiance and I both plan to visit it gets expensive pretty quickly).  It sucks, but that’s life, I suppose.  We do try to plan visits with my mom (either she visits us or we visit her) at least once a year.  One good thing about this year is that I’ll get to see her 3 times, which is awesome!  I won’t be seeing her again until September, though, when we travel there for my cousin’s wedding.

Sometimes I just remember that even though I can’t always see them or talk to them, they do think about me … And I think about them.  I deal with being away pretty well most of the time, but I’ll admit that sometimes I get really depressed around Christmas because I know I won’t be spending the holiday with them.  Sometimes I do wonder if that will ever change.

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