- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
We had only a dozen guests at the ceremony and luncheon following it, and 60 people at the at-home reception three days later.
What was your reasoning?
As a same-sex couple, the only state in which we could get married at the time we got engaged was Massachusetts. We figured we’d have a small ceremony there, and then a bigger reception back home.
Do you regret it at all?
Not at all! We got to spend real time with the people closest to us, instead of just saying a few words each before having to move on to the next person. We rented a big house where we and all our guests could stay the night before the wedding and the wedding night, so we got to hang out with our guests for two days.
What did you tell friends/family members who weren’t invited?
We said we didn’t want to drag them 8 hours away for a midweek wedding, and would be sure to include them in the party back home.
How many people were in your wedding party?
Two, a maid of honor and a dude of honor.
What kind of food was served?
One of the advantages of having a really small wedding was that we could afford to serve really good food without breaking the bank. People had a choice of lobster, salmon, filet mignon, or crab cakes for the entree. We also served clam chowder, a caesar salad, rice pilaf, seasonal vegetables, and triple chocolate layer cake.
Was there dancing?
Not at the luncheon following the ceremony. (We did have dancing at the at-home reception.) But people had so much fun catching up with each other that we pretty much had to shovel them out the door when our time was up.