Post # 1
Did you have anyone with you while getting your hair and makeup done?
I have to go into the salon to have mine done on my wedding day and am unsure if I should ask SIL to come with me or just enjoy some quiet alone time. Im worried that I might feel a bit ‘unloved’ and lonely if I just go alone and regret it but at the same time Im not particularly close to SIL.
Note I have no sisters of my own and my best friend will have a three week old baby so will be busy with that, my mum will already be busy looking after my kids.
So what did others who had no bridal party do/plan on doing?
Post # 3
I only have my Maid/Matron of Honor but i’m not even sure if I will be having her standing up there next to me during the ceremony. But I will definitely try to have some of my closest friends with me during the ‘getting ready’ bit. I also have no bridemaids.
Post # 4
I’m having hair and makeup artists come to our hotel room to style me, my mom, and my Future Mother-In-Law. I also invited friends to stop by throughout the day. A few people asked how they could help, so I put them in charge of bringing in breakfast and lunch.
Is there anyone in particular you would like to have with you? It does not have to be a family member or very close friend. You will be amazed how many people will come out of the woodwork and offer to help as your wedding date gets closer. Take someone up on the offer to help and ask them to keep you company, if you want it. They will be honored.
Post # 5
Thanks for the replies,
I do have a few close friends but they all have young children so are a bit busy already with them (I have my own so completely understand how busy life is with kids). Im sure they would come spend time with me if I asked them but Im not sure if it would be right to even ask.
Our venue is out of town and that is where I will be staying so its not really an option to have the hair and makeup artist come to my room, I have to travel to them.
Im thinking I might just go with the flow and see what happens on the day, if someone wants to come then they can and if not then I will just enjoy the morning to myself.
Post # 6
I don’t have bridesmaids, but my mother and Future Mother-In-Law are coming with me to the salon along with my best friend. I actually think I would prefer quiet and some time to just relax and think about everything.
Its really a personality thing, if being alone would make you sad then ask a friend to come, if not then enjoy the pampering!
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Not having bridesmaids the first time around was awesome except I felt like I missed out on the bonding that happens during the time you’re getting ready. I had my mom with me when I got my hair and makeup done then my mom and a few of her friends helped me get dressed. In hindsight I probably should have asked a friend to help me get ready but I felt bad about asking her to get ready with me and not be a bridesmaid.
I chose not to have bridesmaids because we were having a small wedding and my now ex did not have any friends he wanted to stand for him as attendants. Plus, I saw all of the drama my friends went through with their bridesmaids when they got married. Now that I am plannning my second wedding I am having a few bridesmaids (a friend of mine, a friend of my FH and my little sister) because I somewhat regretted not having bridesmaids the first time around.
Why not ask your SIL? Maybe it will be a good bonding experience for the two of you. The worst she can say is no thanks.