(Closed) Those stinkin little rsvp cards…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

The BMs and Maid/Matron of Honor might feel like they don’t have to worry about it, since you (hypothetically) know they’re going to be there. 

I’m worried about that, too, since I know from friends weddings in the past that most people take RSVP (respond if you please) a little too literally, so I actually gave myself almost month between the RSVP deadline and the wedding to “berate” our friends for their answers. 🙂  Unfortunately, that’s all you can do if people reject simple etiquette.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Our RSVPs are going to be due almost a month before our wedding. Not playing around with them, though, and if they don’t get them in they’ll surely be getting a phone call from me or Mr. KM.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Our first due date just hit and we had 35 card out of 59 that were not returned.  Since it was all my FIs family, he spent about a week calling and emailing around until he got a response from almost everyone. We still have 2 people we haven’t heard a peep from.

I don’t know why people are so challenged when we make it so easy for them!  Check a box and put it in the mail, people!! 

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

RSVPs are so frustrating!  At first I got a bunch of yes’s and things were going well and then a few declines and now a whole lotta nothing.  A few of the declines were from people that I really, really wanted to come so that makes things that much worse.  Plus I have heard from a bunch of people who said that they sent them more than two weeks ago, but I never got them.  Makes me question postcard RSVPs and if it is worth it saving on postage but having them get lost in the mail…

Post # 7
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137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m also frustrated with some of our guests and RSVPs. Nothing, though, beats the person who never received the invite in the mail, didn’t receive the replacement that I sent….and then told me she can’t attend due to money issues. Oh, and she just happens to be taking a trip to an international country for 2 weeks. Yeah, with what money? I guess I’m not that important to her…. Not that I expect my wedding to be as important to her as it is to me, but I thought we were good friends.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

A week after our RSVP date, we still had 120 out.  Neither side of our parents RSVP’d (well I think his dad may have but can’t remember); out of 8 sets of aunt and unlces, only 1 RSVP’d.  I hear you on the frustrations…RSVP’s are useless, IMO and in our experience.  I know what they are for but it’s ridiculous to spend money on them and the stamps to only have 20 returned by the RSVP date and you still don’t get the rest by the time the wedding rolls around.  You end up having to track everyone down anyways Undecided

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Our RSVPs have been trickling in since we sent out our invitations a week or so ago.  I have already decided that I’m not waiting around too long after our deadline.  I plan on dividing the list of non-responders between myself, my mom and my FI’s mom and I’m having everyone call (the non-responders).  The fact that certain aspects of our wedding depend upon the number attending, (centerpiece count, how many programs to make, our seating chart and placecards, etc…) worries me.   I plan on getting this ironed out as soon as possible.

Which I am sure will make me seem rather crazy but I’ll feel so much better knowing…

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@Kay7 Glad to see I’m not alone. Our due date is Fri., and I’m planning to do the same thing. Knowing final answers will help us decide how large our cake needs to be, seating arrangements, centerpiece count, etc. It will be great knowing if I can save some money on centerpieces!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m in the same boat – same wedding date and everything!  We gave our guests until next Friday to respond, and then we will be making phone calls.  Given the (really small) number of responses we’ve had so far, we are going to be making LOTS of calls.  I even had one guest inform my mother at my bridal shower that she hadn’t RSVP’d to the wedding because the bridal shower invitation said that the shower was a surprise.  What?  >_<

Hopefully we can get everyone on the phone in early April…  I don’t want to bug people, but we do need to know what people are eating ahead of time.  A few stragglers will be ok, but I don’t want to be planning on 100 people and have 150 show up!

Hang in there!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Due to the SLOW response of my shower attendees to the RSVPs.. I move my “requested by” date up.. I’m giving them till about 6 weeks before.  That will give me two weeks to make calls to everyone when they don’t return them..  ugh.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Mine are due 3/28 and I still have 80 left to come in.   I’m not stressed about it because everyday I’ve been getting about 5 in the mail. So I should get most of them and if not looking at our list I can easily tell if they are a yes or no.  Example, the bridesmaids.

We sent out 250 invitations so being down to 80 left isn’t too bad.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

follow-up phone calls are always necessary. People forget all the time. I know it sounds hurtful but our weddings are not always a priority for our guests. that sucks, but its true. Give it a little time and then start making phone calls (try not to sounds miffed..lol)

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I, too, am worried about getting responses back, but I’m prepped and ready for the phone calls and harrassing emails!  I’m a little more worried now than I was yesterday, because I found out last night that SEVERAL people haven’t received their invites, which were mailed in February!  So, now I’m wondering who else hasn’t gotten them!

Sidenote: Why do you have to change your venue?? That stinks!!

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