Those that got married in your 40s, did you wear a garter?

posted 2 weeks ago in 40 Something
Post # 2
6845 posts
Busy Beekeeper

As long as he’s not removing it in front of a crowd and it’s something private between the two of you, why not?

I’ll be an older, second time bride and will be skipping it but I skipped it the first time around as well. I find the public garter removal cringe-worthy. 

Post # 3
12318 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

What does age have to do with it? I thought it was a sexist tradition lacking in class when I was married in my late 20s. If he just wants one to keep, I guess that’s up to you, but I’d find the symbolism problematic. 

Post # 4
2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Although I wasn’t in my 40s when I got married, I wore a garter but never tossed it or showed anyone that I was wearing it. I thought the tradition was to do with guests wanting a piece of the bride’s outfit for luck, I don’t see what age would have to do with it? I would just do what makes you happy. 

Post # 5
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I wore one, but didn’t toss it

Post # 6
1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

I was 43. My husband loved the garter and wanted to keep it. So I wore it and then he kept it.

Post # 7
1432 posts
Bumble bee

sweetnicole :  thought about it, only to surprise fh with in private later as a menento. But as I’ll be wearing spanx. Not a good look. Lol. 


My first husband asked for one, too. 

Post # 8
623 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I wasn’t quite 40, but I got one as a surprise for him, with his favourite sports team branding as my something blue. He thought it was hilarious but we kept it between ourselves. 

Post # 9
1695 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Nah, I didn’t care for that particular tradition.

Post # 10
4037 posts
Honey bee

I married at 21, over 40 years ago. I didn’t wear one and didn’t throw anything. 

My daughters married in the last 6 years. They didn’t wear one, or throw anything. My younger daughter has never seen a garter thrown. 

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