(Closed) Those who can and cannot afford kids…..

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 62
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@azzie17:  haha I always joked that it would be a good idea to have people apply to some type of agency before bringing kids into the world… some people should not be breeding. 

Post # 63
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

@mrs_narwhal:  +100000 Why is it there is a license for everything(marriage, driver’s license etc)  yet anyone with genitals can procreate no questions asked.

Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@babypearls:  I think the examples you give represent a very very small percentage of the population.  

Post # 66
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Bumble bee

@AngelR88:  the ppl that take advantage r a small percentage of many that truly need it

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@babypearls:  I think that is an accurate assessment of the situation.  BUT… it is not that peopl who have 4 children don’t need it.  They do.  It is just that they need to take steps to prevents those 4 children from coming into the world (and I am not even talking about abortion).  I understand you can have an accident, but… 4!?!  

I just think people should not have any more children than they can comfortably afford.  

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

there are other forms of bc besides the pill or hormonal subsitutes… if you chart, bc can be virtually “free” — no need to pay the $30 a month if you listen to your own body.  

Post # 69
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Not to mention how many people there are who would make excellent parents, but are infertile…

Post # 70
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Bumble bee

@AngelR88:  haha I had two accidents so now my tubes will b stapled tied and burned lol! Totally agree 

Post # 71
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@tinybee:  X 1,000,000 exactly – well said!

Post # 72
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ms_snugs:  Awww, that is really sad. I feel for those who have all the means in the world to provide a wonderful home full of love and happiness and then find out they are infertile – or will have to go to extrodinary lengths to concieve a child of their own. Before college I knew plenty of girls who seemed to pop kids out for the tax benefit – I don’t “know” them anymore, but once in awhile I will hear – oh so and so is pregnant again and with a different father again! I just think, it is one thing to screw up your own life, but don’t be bringing a bunch of innocent children into it.

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Holy Judgemental Thread Batman!

Post # 74
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@AngelR88:  So pretend I live in rural Nebraska and the nearest Planned Parenthood is 5+ hours away in Denver. I don’t have a car or resources. 

People do live that way. 

Again, I say it comes down way more to poverty and lack of education and resources.

Post # 75
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@bowsergirl:  But I agree with this.  I am just saying that the issue should not be as prevalent as it is (even if those people represent a minority of the people who actually make fair use of the system, they are still a number of people).  I also ge particularly annoyed because in S. Fla.  you see a ton of people at the supermarket buying beer with cash and using the food stamps for the other stuff.  If you are so poor that you need food stamps, then, please, do not buy beer.  I see this ALL THE TIME.  I know that has nothing to do with parenthood, but it has to do with abuse of the system. 

Post # 76
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I didn’t read all the repsonses but I have to pipe in.  WHile I get what you’re saying (i.e. alot of people I know, some friends of friends, friends of family of dh’s family… the ones that are struggling have more kids then the ones that are well off.  For instance, dh’s moms cousin has like 8 kids and she really cannot afford much, while dh has a cousin who is considered wealthy and she only has 1).  BUT I would not pass judgement on the kind of life or the type of parent one is over the other.

I always said people who knew their limits with having kids were smart and here I am pregnant with my 4th after being ‘done’ with having kids after my 3rd LOL.  Yes, it does seem like the well off people tend to have less children while the less well off set tend or seem to have more but look at Angie and Brad.  They are pretty mush set financially and have 6 kids, so does Tori Spelling who has 4 and Posh Spice has 4…so not all rich people stick with just 1 or 2 but it does seem like the majority does.  Oh well, it;s life.  I don’t judge because I don’t want anyone judging me.  

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