(Closed) Those who don’t RSVP

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yes, you invite the shower people to the wedding. That would be kind of weird not to, IMO. You can politely ask your co-workers whether they are coming ot the shower or not. Maybe it just slipped their minds…no biggie.

Post # 5
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would just ask them if they are coming!

Edit: S*** happens in everyone’s lives. Who knows maybe it completely slipped their minds. I would still invite them to the wedding!

Post # 6
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7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yes, I still say invite them. As I said before, just ask them if they’re coming or not.

Post # 7
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1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had one girl forget to rsvp to my shower.. a very good friend who is just a little flaky, and she lost/forgot the invite.  She called me a week later and really appologized.

My mom is angry with her, but I just know that is how she is.  She would never do it on purpose.. and in my opinion, just missed a great party.

I would just bring up your shower in convo, and mention, hey so and so hasn’t heard from you guys yet.. are you going to be able to make it?  See what they say!

Post # 8
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1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

A LOT of people don’t RSVP, for a lot of reasons.  And if you still have two weeks until your shower, they may just not think they need to RSVP yet.  You still need to invite them to the wedding.  There are going to be a lot of people who don’t RSVP to your wedding too…it doesn’t mean they don’t care, it just means that they have a lot going on in their own lives and sometimes people are inconsiderate.  I’m sorry you’re frustrated!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I know some people who have never been to a shower and are just a little clueless about the whole thing. They might not have understood how rude it was not to RSVP. I agree you should just ask them if they’re coming.

Post # 11
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i had people not rsvp for my shower, one had her invite under a ton of papers so she just forgot about it (and called my mom appologizing a month later when she found it), one we had the address wrong so she never even got an invite. and some we just had to track down but they ended up saying yes and coming. people who aren’t planning weddings don’t understand how annoying and rude it is not to rsvp, they just don’t get it.

Post # 12
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191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would definitely still invite them to the wedding. I don’t think that someone forgetting to rsvp means that they don’t care about you or your wedding, sometimes people just forget or have bad memories in general. I’m the worst at forgetting to reply to things even texts or emails but that doesn’t mean that I don’t care about the person, I am just very forgetful, which I know is an awful trait to have! I would try to politely ask them if they plan on attending the shower but even if they can’t for whatever reason, I would still invite them to the wedding.

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