Those who eloped, how did you tell family your plans?

posted 3 months ago in Elopement
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

My family always knew I wouldn’t want a traditional wedding. When we got engaged and people asked us our plans we said the truth, that we would be getting married just the two of us on our next international trip. There were no issues!

ETA: We did have a little party after, just 40 people close friends and immediate family at a pub. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

swimslikeacat :  I know this post is directed towards those who eloped, but this is speaking from my own experience with family members who were very emotionally attached to our wedding. Don’t tell anyone you’re eloping. It would probably hurt their feelings to know that yes, you are planning a ceremony but no, you’re not inviting them. People may be shocked by elopements and there will be some hurt feelings, but it’s better to announce after the fact than to tell people that you are eloping. To them this might sound more like you don’t want to share your day with them even though that’s probably not true at all. However if you both have families who you know wouldn’t mind, then there might not be harm in telling people of your elopement.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

We didn’t tell them anything. Originally we thought we’d just get married at the courthouse here in town so when they asked I just said “we’ll probably just run over to the courthouse at some point.” And no one asked again. Then we decided to elope instead and didn’t let them know till after we’d done it. 

ETA: Our families are both small and we didn’t have any negative reactions. Two of his siblings I’m sure were actually relieved. And my side knows I’ve never wanted a wedding and I have major anxiety so they weren’t surprised.  Also we’re both almost 40 so I think that made a difference too. 

Post # 20
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

brideandblue :  That’s what we’ve experienced too! That and people who’ve been divorced saying that’s how they want to do it next time. 

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

We eloped, told some family members before, they got annoyed, so we decided to not tell anyone else until after. Some family members are still annoyed, but I don’t regret eloping for one second! It was perfect, amazing and so romantic! 

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