Um, all of those questions, except the wedding gift ones, apply to people who moved in together before marriage. We all had to make the adjustments – it isn’t just the people who wait until marriage that have to divvy up chores and get rid of extra stuff…
1) combine all yours and his stuff together? I sold all my furniture since I had crappy cheap stuff from grad school and he had “real” furniture. I had already weaned my belongings way down because of moving from TX to MA for grad school. Didn’t need to do much besides that. He isn’t very materialistic, so he didn’t have to get rid of extra stuff either.
2) get your house/apartment/space organized from the chaos of moving and wedding gifts? I think it took maybe a week. nothing bad at all. But, I moved in with him, so I had less stuff to bring in and organize.
3) get used to sleeping with your spouse (as in not tossing and turning all night)? We had slept in the same bed many times pre-marriage and it was tough because we are what I call incompatible sleepers. A month or so after the wedding we bought a King size bed and all problems were solved. I recommend it!
4) get into a daily routine where both of you could easily function (ex: morning routines w/ showers, breakfast, etc. and not be late for work) This took months, and ultimately resulted in us buying a second comforter (he “burritos” up and hogs the blanket) and a new memory foam mattress that doesn’t transfer motion as much (burritoing is really disruptive!). I think when we move next we will get a king sized bed and two twin mattresses for it to isolate movement even more. Girl needs her sleep!
5) get used to making daily dinners / meals (if you do)? When we met, my husband had condiments and takeout containers in his fridge. So, cooking is up to me (I have taught him a few things, and we still have the occasional night where we each make our own food). I’m honestly still working on this, and we’ve lived together more than 2 years. I am trying to add in more variety and blend our tastes together better.
6) get used to doing chores together? That was always basically 50/50. Sometimes he does more chores. I spend more time actually managing things though. I keep track of what needs to be bought, when, who’s birthday is coming up, etc, which is kind of a chore in and of itself.