Post # 1
How did you know it was the one? My husband purchased my rings when he proposed and then I lost the ring over a year and a half ago when we moved across the country. I’ve looked for a ring set ever since. My husband is exasperated with me, and rightfully so.
I know some people get that feeling that something is “the one”, but I don’t. Even with my husband, I wasn’t 100% confident in us until about a year after we got married! The wedding dress I picked out (our wedding was cancelled and we went to the courthouse when our daughter had to have surgery that same week) was just a dress that fit that I thought was pretty. There was no “wow” moment.
So, any suggestions on how to decide? My husband refuses to pick it out unless I show him some options. We looked yesterday and he told me I need to decide now because it’s ridiculous I don’t have a wedding ring set when we can easily afford it and I’m married.
Post # 3
We chose mine together. I’m not the sort of person who believes in “the one” for anything, least of all rings!
We looked at loads on a trip to London, came away with nothing.
So we basically drew up a list of things we thought were important
-Low profile so it doesn’t catch, small as I have tiny hands, hard wearing as I will never take it off and am keen on all kinds of DIY, pretty because at heart I’m still a girly girl, and I wanted a coloured stone as I have always loved them.
We told all that to a jeweller and he made one up for me. I love it. But I couldn’t have chosen without introducing some logic to the process!
Post # 4
I picked my ring too, and I can’t explain how I knew it was “the one.” I just saw it and started tugging on my fiance’s arm and refused to leave the store without it!
But it sounds like you aren’t the kind of woman who has that “wow” moment, and that’s okay. Instead of worrying about the “right” ring, why not just choose one you really like? Just as you did with your wedding dress? Go find a ring you think is beautiful and that you won’t get sick of wearing, and then get it!
Alternatively, you could try picking out a ring that looks like your old set — that way you don’t have to choose a whole new set. 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I didn’t find “the one”, so we had it custom made. I found one that I really loved, but it had 3 major flaws. One, the store would not source Canadian diamonds for me. Two, it only came in platinum or white gold. And three, it would have required at least a 1.5ct center diamond. I refused to own anything certified by the Kimberly process, I wanted palladium, and I refused to compromise so much on stone quality to bring a 1.5ct diamond into our budget. So I took that ring as inspiration and we worked with a custom jeweler to design a ring that had similar finger coverage and profile, but in a manner that also fit my ethics, metal preferences, and budget. We also worked with the jeweler to design my wedding band. I liked a certain Tiffany band, but it was missing something that I couldn’t quite put my finger on. When we were talking with the jeweler, she pulled out a band with miligrain edging, and we talked about combining the Tiffany style band that I saw earlier with the miligrain edging of the band she was holding. It was the “something” I was looking for. Just a little extra detail to jazz things up a bit. And done!
Post # 6
I have wanted that ring for years, since my mid teens. I have wanted the Tiffany Setting from T&Co, not a replica, I loved the simplicity of it, the classic elegance. I said to Fiance that yes I wanted that ring, but would understand if he didn’t want to because of the price. He said yes and that is the ring I have 🙂
Post # 7
I knew I wanted certain parameters in my ring such as green sapphire, soitaire, and engraving on the band. We went to a local store known for it’s wide selection of engagement rings and started looking at settings. My setting is actually the first one that we saw that really caught our eye. We spent 45 minutes with the owner comparing it to everything else they had the was remotely like it and we just kept going back to my setting because it had everything we wanted including being the right kind of metal for my allergies. I then spent some time trying to describe what exactly I wanted in a green sapphire to the jeweler who ordered in the perfect stone. I wouldn’t say it was a ‘the one’ moment, I just put a lot of thought into what I like. There not a single thing that I dislike about my ring which is how I know I’ll be able to wear it for the rest of my life without getting tired of it.
Post # 8
I would think of who you are as a person. Your personal style. Modern? Vintage? Trendy? Whimsical? Loud? Subtle? Unusual?
Then, base your ring on your personal style. It’s all about narrowing. There are thousands of beautiful rings out there. And probably many that you would be happy with. So don’t feel like you have to find “the one”. There are probably lots of options you will be happy with. So narrow down categories. Then just look and some and pick what you like best.
I am also not a “Aha” person. My wedding gown shopping was terribly pragmatic and unemotional. Were I in your situation, I would probably have similar problems. But at some point you just have to pick. And then be happy with what you picked.
Post # 9
That’s a great question! We ended up picking my ring together. I initially said “1 carat, Tiffany, solitaire,” and he suggested that we go try it on before dropping that kind of cash. I put it on and was… underwhelmed. It was beautiful, but it just didn’t feel right. We went to Cartier, I fell in love with their classic solitaire setting, but the price wasn’t meant to be (obviously..) and then we went to a regular mall jewelry store and I HATED all of the options. I told the sales lady that I wanted “a solitaire that wasn’t boring.” She, unfortunately understood that to mean “more than one tiny diamond attached to the setting that holds a big diamond.” We were clearlly on different pages. Finally, as we were leaving, we stopped into a jewely store that I’d never heard of (David Yurman) and they had it! A true solitaire that wasn’t boring! I saw it… put it on… and basically decided in that moment. We didn’t buy that day, but we both knew it was everything I wanted. We slept on it for two weeks, called them, and bought my ring.
I think having parameters in mind, but the flexibility to try on tons of different options is key. I’m glad I didn’t insist on the Tiffany because I found a better fit for me several stores later… Good luck!
Post # 10
I had no idea what I wanted when Fiance took me in to shop – then when I tried on a bunch of different rings, there was one I kept going back to, and knew it was the one. 🙂
Post # 11
I went to the jewelry store during their crazy 20% off everything sale and tried on probably over 100 rings. I knew it was it when I had it on. It was probably like #99/100. I tried on one more but nothing else compared. I guess I just had a feeling. We decided on the center stone kind of together. I wanted a ruby and he picked the size and shape.
Post # 12
@stuckinwonderland: i gave my Fiance some pics of rings I liked and his friend’s father is the jewelry designer who made it.
Post # 13
I sent him pictures of rings I liked, and he made the final call. I think I sent him about 10 rings before there was one that he really loved. You’ve had a ring before, so you know what you like to wear, but my advice would be to pick something you’ll be able to wear all the time.
Post # 14
I would do that if I liked my original set. I didn’t. I would have never told my husband ever, but I didn’t lie when he asked me if I wanted it replicated. It wasn’t awful or anything, it’s just not my style. I would have worn it until I died without saying a word, but now that I have a choice, it’s just not something I’d select.
Post # 15
My ring was one of the only things I knew was “the one” (besides FH of course), we had a budget I compared them all, put it on, FH bought it, we left. Pretty simple, very exciting.
Post # 16
I have known for years that my favourite stone is an emerald cut diamond. The rest was easy. I found a setting I loved (after changing it from 18K to 19K) and I have been happy ever since.
I would never consider a change, so that alone tells me that it’s the one.