- 2 years ago
- Wedding: August 2019
Team green for all 3.
1st was easy to not find out.
2nd we pretty much knew as they kept opening and shutting their legs during the ultrasound.
3rd I was desperate to know thought it’d be opposite to my other two because my pregnancy was so different. But wouldn’t uncross their legs during all my ultrasounds which was fine because we werent actuslly going to find out I just wanted to guess. Turns out they were the same. We weren’t upset at all.
All my babies wore the same outfit when they were first born. A yellow on-air (now been made into teddies 1 for each of them).
We found a heap of neutral stuff. But most of them were bonds zippys so there was an endless bounty of neutral.
I know quite a few people who pretended to be Team Green because they didn’t want to tell other people the sex of the baby until it was born, but secretly they knew. I’m not actually sure I know anyone who really didn’t know, now I think about it.
I’m not sure if I could wait to find out. I like the idea in some ways. But husband and I struggle to agree on boys names so if we have a boy I think the longer we have to agree on a name the better!
My cousin was team green but had her OBGYN or whoever notify her sister of the gender. She then bought the bulk of things gender neutral but the few gendered items she did like, she created a “boy” wishlist and “girl” wishlist and had her sister order the stuff accordingly and keep the stuff until the baby was born. So that’s another option maybe if you have a close friend or family member willing to do that!
Most stuff you can just buy after birth but I know my cousin liked some newborn stuff too that was gender specific so it was those types of things she had her sister order. And her pregnancy was during Christmas sale seasons as well so she wanted to take a bit of advantage of those. I remember that she loved a “just born” onesie that came in gender specific options only so she had her sister order it, put it in a non clear bag, and she kept it in the hospital bag like that.
We’re right at the start of TTC so don’t have to make this decision yet. I just don’t think I’ll be able to hold off on finding out. I’m not the most patient person lol Plus we have absolutely no ideas for a boy name so if it’s a boy I want to know so we can really get on choosing a name.
But we have discussed that regardless of if we choose to find out or not, we’re just going to tell everyone else we are team green because I don’t want to be gifted a bunch of super gendered stuff.
I’m 30 weeks pregnant and wasn’t team green. I did however have a strong gender preference – I REALLY wanted a girl – and if this baby was a boy I would want some time to process and accept it. Thankfully she’s a girl! But if I didn’t have a strong preference I can for sure see how it’d be fun to wait!
And I am fine with some gendered stuff. But when my brother and SIL announced my niece is a girl they got drowned in pink stuff and I don’t want that.
We were team green fir our first and I loved it. Very cool moment when my husband told me it was a girl! We found out for our second just to sort clothes and prepare big sister (she was adamant about getting a sister so a few months of prepping for brother was really helpful) and it’s nice too but a little less exciting. My agreement to finding out was that I got to open the envelope and tell my husband the sex thus time since he got to tell me the first time.
I had no problem finding neutral items and even now that I have a girl plenty of her stuff is from the boy dept too. You really don’t NEED to know to plan the important stuff – diapers, college funds, and life insurance for us wasn’t changing depending on the kid’s junk lol. Plus my son is such a barf machine that I rescued some onesie from the donate pile so I can stretch the time between laundry loads – he doesn’t care if he barfs on pink jammies!
Also for me, I think it will help me connect with this baby more if I know. After having a miscarriage it has been hard to connect with this pregnancy. I think will help me have a better connection through the last half of my pregnancy.
I think there are tons of reasons to find out the sex other than buying clothing/decor.
A lot of people I knew were surprised I didn’t know because I’m so organised. They didn’t believe I didn’t have a name sorted or a whole wardrobe of clothes lol.
I’m not pregnant yet, however, my husband and I want to try very soon! We’ve had the discussion multiple times if we want to be “team green” or not…. he really wants to be surprised. However, I’m not totally convinced that I want that. I do not have a preference in gender, however, I personally would love to be prepared for a boy or a girl. I just feel indifferent… also, I’m not the best with surprises lol. We will see what happens!
I’m not a parent, but why all the fuss over colors? Colors don’t have a gender. Especially when the baby is so young, it doesn’t care what color it wears. Boys will be fine in pink and flowers and girls in blue and bears.
If you prefer a certain aesthetic, go for it, but I think throwing stuff away because it’s the “wrong” color for a boy/girl is wasteful and a bit silly.
Honestly, it reminds me of people who are super hardcore about their male/female animals being given the “right” pronouns and wearing the “right” colors. The animal doesn’t care. Your gelding isn’t going to be immasculated because you bought him a pink saddle pad.