(Closed) Those who were not trying not preventing – what gender did you get?

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: I had/am having a
    Boy : (16 votes)
    64 %
    Girl : (9 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 2
    4031 posts
    Honey bee

    Haven’t had a child, but this logic makes no sense. Sorry. You have a 50/50 shot at each gender and no natural method has been proven to work for “choosing” a gender.

    Post # 4
    1773 posts
    Buzzing bee

    marymary123:  Is it a theory as in the scientific meaning?

    I would be interested in studies if you have any.

    Post # 5
    5179 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2014

    There was actually a study done showing that couples with daughters had higher rates of divorce… now this is relevant to your question because their possible explanation of this was that female embryos are more resistant to maternal stressors and are therefore more likely to survive early on when the mother is under stress (perhaps from an unhappy marriage). So if a mom is stressed she will be more likely to “miscarry” a male embryo before even knowing she’s pregnant whereas a female embryo would be more likely to survive, causing the slight correlation. This same logic could be applied here, where if a woman isn’t trying to get pregnant she may be putting more stress on her body like drinking and such that may make it harder for a male embryo to survive.

    Here’s an article explaining the studies:


    Post # 6
    3017 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    marymary123:  I’m pretty sure the Shettles method has been debunked. But regardless, couldn’t couples not trying to get pregnant have sex on ovulation day, just by chance? Besides, if you are trying to get pregnant, two days before ovulation is most likely to result in pregnancy, not the day of.

    Post # 8
    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    marymary123:  my mother is a 74 year old retired nurse and explained this theory to me after our baby was born. Makes a lot of sense!! But I have two girls. One planned and one unplanned so go figure. 

    Post # 9
    2837 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    marymary123:  First pregnancy– not trying, not preventing– BOY

    Second pregnancy (different partner)– not trying, not preventing– BOY

    Post # 10
    1263 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I got pregnant with #1 about six years ago after Darling Husband and I had unprotected sex ONE time. Totally unplanned pregnancy that resulted in our little boy. Now I am pregnant with #2 after Darling Husband and I tried really hard for a long time (temping, charting, the works) and I am having another boy. I really don’t think it matters, you have a 50/50 shot either way.

    Post # 11
    2517 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    marymary123:  There are actually 8 studies that say his method doesn’t work (actually works the opposite to the way it’s written – BD days prior for a boy and on O day for a girl.)  And his ‘results’ were from reader testimony.  Shettles also never published in a medical journal – why?  Possibly because he didn’t have unbiased evidence to support his theory. 

    Even with the data that has been scientifically collected the odds only creep up to 60% when you base sex selection on timing alone.  

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