Thought 'engagement season' wouldn't be rough….

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Newbee

I’m going to go against the grain here and say that I think you should bring forward the wedding. You are already living together and committed, so why not get married? I don’t see why you can’t make it work if you are both committed to each other.

Post # 17
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5 posts
Newbee

 

Guys, generally.. (Geez, I’m generalizing, sorry..) need to feel like they are secure and stable before moving to the next step. Meaning he probably wants to graduate, get his shit together, and feel like he’s in a good place before taking it a step further. That’s good.. you should be relieved he isn’t so reactionary. He wants to make sure it’s right, and perfect for you two.

 

 

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

puravida44 :  Exactly.  Thank you.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

ljm308 :  literally everything ljm308 has said in this thread. 

Post # 20
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2868 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

kkano : 22 is not old to not be in graduate school. You don’t usually finish a 4 year program until about 22 and 22 is still really young to be married. 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

kkano :  man, I want to just give you a hug! It’s hard when you feel like everyone else has their lives together but you… but it’s true that you aren’t seeing the hard part of their lives on social media, you aren’t seeing the fights or the debt, and that you just have to do what is best for you. 

You guys are already doing the part that is the “worse” in the for better or for worse. You know there is commitment. you got this.

i met my husband in grad school at 23, didn’t get married until 29 this year. Our town was struck by disaster this year, I’ve been struggling with it ever since. It’s pushing off our baby plans. Do I regret this every time I see a little sweet baby on Facebook? Yes and no. I recognize that I’m simply not ready yet for this. It isn’t a personal failing. I’d love to have kids but I’m not at the place in life where I can devote everything to someone else. Your marriage is like that, it’s a lot of effort and time to plan a wedding so you’ll enjoy it. I get wanting to wait to have the full process, not everyone chooses that balance hence why friends are getting married young. You aren’t seeing their marks slipping or not having a job so they can plan their wedding. Or the extra thousands they pay someone else to do it for them.

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