(Closed) Thought I had a big budget, the venues dont think so :(

posted 7 years ago in Venue
Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I can completely relate to this thread. I’m from and getting married in Sonoma, CA. I got a budget venue… the wineries were all $20k just for the venue rental (Nothing included!) and you had to use/pay for their wine.  My budget was $25k and I had to increase it to $35k. The stress of trying to keep costs at $25k wasn’t worth it in the end. It just isn’t possible in the location. I could have done it elsewhere, but I’m proud of where I’m from and wanted people to see it.

I hope you don’t have to increase your budget, but I guess just weigh your options and decide what is worth it and what isn’t. 

Good luck!

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ImperialRed:  depends on where you’re getting married. where i LIVE, $25k is not a lot for a wedding budget. But, in my home state where I’m actually getting married, $25k is plenty – our budget is $26k and we are having basically everything we want!

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

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@ImperialRed:  Hi there! I just got married in Troy and am happy to talk about venues with you. How much are you looking to spend on your venue? Feel free to send me a PM if you want to discuss in more detail. We looked at almost 10 venues and researched many more so I have a good idea of what everything costs in that area. 😀

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@onourway13:  Me too! I am in northern Michigan and I thought $10k for the casino ballroom was way too much! And that included the tables, chairs, linens, food, and a room for the night.

We are having about 200 people and are trying to keep the budget under $10k. So far we have accomplished this by having our reception at our township hall. It’s not the fanciest place around but it was more important to us to have our family and friends around us to celebrate. The hall was a couple hundred dollars and includes the tables and chairs. We do have to have it catered but even that was half the price of the casino. I am also setting aside a portion of the budget to spruce the room up so it’s not so white (table cloths, drapes from the ceiling, etc)

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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@Rachel631:  Reading this makes me feel SO much better! I was crying earlier on the phone to my Fiance because we’re just starting the process and I know we have 6k from my parents and probably close to that from my grandmother but zero help from his side. As a result, I just feel so overwhelmed with the costs of things and with how people treat you like you’re poor and shouldn’t even HAVE a wedding with a 10-12k budget.

Post # 37
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

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@CharleighT:  This makes me so angry! Don’t cry, because you can do it. And don’t listen to the haters! I remember posting on here in the photography section and a professional responded “if you really only earn that much a year [implication: and that’s why you can’t afford my prices] then why aren’t you just eloping?”

I didn’t even bother to reply. If you can’t afford a Jaguar, you can still get a Ford, right? If you can’t afford Armani shoes, what’s wrong with Marks and Spencer’s? They’re just as hard-wearing.

Be happy with what you have!

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

First, I think a lot of these “you’re just looking in the wrong place” comments are TOTALLY wrong and unfair. $25,000 may be a large budget in your area, but it’s NOT in major metropolitan areas like LA and NYC. I’m in the same boat…same budget…same lack of viable venue options. And I looked at over 400 venues in the area! So it’s not for lack of trying. I’m sure that’s true for OP too. 

In my area, there is a SHARP dropoff in quality if the wedding drops below 30k (whole wedding, not just venue). Most nice venues are $20k after you factor in service charges and sales tax. Sadly, that’s reality where I live. We’re talking about a Destination Wedding, because we might be priced out of getting married here. 

Post # 39
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@ImperialRed: This is why I think people should have their locations specified in their profile – posts like this are useless if people don’t know where you are! I am having my wedding in NYC (outer borough) and my budget is about the same but it’s going to be a pretty “cheap” wedding. If I lived in some areas of the Midwest or South, 25 grand would get me the most ballin wedding anyone had ever seen.

Here is a country club wedding venue in Albs that has off-season packages starting at $90 pp. I found this in no time, so I bet there are even more budget friendly places waiting to be checked out!

http://www.wolfertsroost.com/Default.aspxp=DynamicModule&pageid=230618&ssid=81206&vnf=1

 

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@CharleighT:  don’t worry it’s possible. We’re doing 180 people for just under 6k, not including honeymoon. Perhaps it’s just time to get a little crafty and get help from your support system(family, friends). Most people are willing to help out with a thing or two. i have nicknamed my family the “wedding army” lol. They help out alot

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If that was our budget, we’d have our dream wedding, because we’d buy out a restaurant we really want the wedding at – problem is we are getting married on a Saturday, and the minimum spend for that night is $12K.  We are doing a different place with a minimum spend of $3K, that we also really love.

Look into non traditional venues.  How much time do you have?  What kind of feel do you want for your wedding?  Do you have a theme?  $25,000 for a venue is ludicrous.  Elope and put it down on a house!

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If that was our budget, we’d have our dream wedding, because we’d buy out a restaurant we really want the wedding at – problem is we are getting married on a Saturday, and the minimum spend for that night is $12K.  We are doing a different place with a minimum spend of $3K, that we also really love.

Look into non traditional venues.  How much time do you have?  What kind of feel do you want for your wedding?  Do you have a theme?  $25,000 for a venue is ludicrous.  Elope and put it down on a house!

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wow USA venues are very expensive. We are paying about 7500 pounds, about 11,650 for the use of a chapel and three rooms in a castle in Scotland. That price also includes a free place to get ready, a room for the bride and groom with champange for the wedding night, a piper, a cake stand, linens for the tables, canapes, a three course meal, coffee and chocolates, a later buffet and wine for 64 people. We also had the option of an owl to fly the rings down the isle included in the price. I declined because all I could imagine was it getting tangled in my veil and eventually clawing me to ribbons! Haha!

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@QueensBee:  I agree, but it also depends on your expectations. I had a large SF Bay Area (my hometown) wedding 14 years ago for way less than $25K, but there was no bling other than my dress, his tux, the cake, etc.  

Post # 45
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, I’m in the DC area, and it would have taken a lot of wheeling-and-dealing for me to do my wedding at 25k or less with the number of people I had.  A budget like that is great in some areas, but not in others.

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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@Sassy9226:  I BOW DOWN TO YOU!!!  That is IMPRESSIVE! I have a feeling that thing will eb easier to ask for help with when we narrow down what we want and the things that go over budget. It’s frustrating because his dad is very very wealthy and paid for his brother’s entire wedding (the dad is sleeping wtih the sister in law…so it worked in his favor) and is unlikely to help at all. I feel so abd that it falls on my family =. You should consider making a post where you give tips on how you’re able to spend so little for tht many people! I’m sure tons of bees would love some guidance!

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