(Closed) Thought I had a big budget, the venues dont think so :(

posted 7 years ago in Venue
Post # 47
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@ImperialRed:  I experienced the same thing that you’re finding. I had been engaged once before (and broke that engagement and canceled that wedding) MANY years prior to finally meeting and becoming engaged to my DH. 

I obviously knew that inflation would have increased prices dramatically.  However, I had NO idea how MUCH more expensive weddings had become between when I had last priced them in the early 1990s and when I actually married in 2009.

My original budget ended up almost tripling.

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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@gingernutjo:  “clawing m to ribbons”…thisi s the cutest thing I have EVER heard and I’m going to borrow it from you ๐Ÿ˜‰ That sounds AMAZING…I bet your wedding will be GORGEOUS!

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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@Rachel631:  I already love you for this reply =) I feel the same way and I just know that I can make it my own…it’s just going to take some time and elbow grease as opposed to if I had a bigger budget. It’s the same way with the open bar bs…FI’s dad paid 15,000k for an open bar for the brother and since he won’t be helping us, an open bar just isn’t an option for the entire night for us. I believe in an open bar HOUR or whatever and champagne toasts but if you don’t have the money, your entire budget can’t go to alcohol. And yet people act like “then don’t have a wedding then!” and it’s just so snarky. Glad I’m not the only one who feels this way!

Post # 50
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@JessSeny:  out of curiosity where in NJ did you find all of that??!?!? My venue is about double for a holiday MONDAY and in NJ : (

It was so difficult to find a venue!

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

DFW is pretty nutty re: weddings.  I still maintain that you can stay within budget and find a suitable venue.

 

When I recently visited Boston, we stayed at a hotel that charged 20-30k for the wedding venue alone.  And yes, it was a swanky hotel.

 

I think at some point in the planning process you have to make a reality check and decide what is most important for your wedding celebration. Is it hosting 400 guests? Or is it hosting 400 guests at a swanky venue? If that’s what you value, then you need to find a lot more money than 20K to make it happen.

ETA: I’m getting this thread mixed up with the Maryland one.

Post # 52
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t think that’s a small budget at all, but I can understand how it might feel like it where you’re located.

I’m getting married in a Scottish Rite temple. It’s gorgeous, historic, and only going to be $1500 for the entire day.We can bring in our own food, alcohol, and everything else, which will save us $$$$. (Our budget is only $16,000)

I tried to find one nearish where you’re located (albany?) but didn’t have much luck. But I know there probably is one, and they’re usually really pretty. If you aren’t skeeved out by the idea of freemasonry–I think it’s cool, but some people think it’s weird–it could be really something to look into. You wouldn’t even need to have it in the off-season, probably, unless you just wated to.

 

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@gelaine22:  We are going to the Stroudsmoor Country Inn in Stroudsburg PA. However, the Venetian in Garfield was 25K for us as well with everything except the photographer and DJ, and the Knoll Country Club (I think that was the name of it) in Parsippany was also 20K for food and beverage and venue… all Saturday nights.

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@gelaine22:  Oh, and My sister got quoted at Perona Farms in Sparta for 18K for food, drinks, and venue. They had her at 20K but her fiance is in the Army so took out the ++ which brought it to 18K. I wanna say like 90 a person including tax and tip?

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

 if you lived where I lived, you wouldnt have any trouble a venue with that budget. My advice is never  them your budget and if they ask always tell them a much lower amount, because they are wanting to get as much of your money as possible!

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@Anise:  Please don’t assume that she just needs to adjust her expectations. That’s not helpful at all… FYI: Where I live, $20,000 isn’t a swanky hotel wedding. At a $25k budget, you couldn’t even consider hotel venues! Those START at $23,000-25,000 for F&B minimum only (that’s without a 21% service charge, $2,000 ceremony fee, and CA sales tax)…

 

I wish people would stop assuming that brides in a major metropolitan area like San Francisco, Los Angeles or New York that can’t find a venue under $20k are just being too greedy and only looking at swanky venues…that’s simply NOT TRUE. There are places in this country that are simply more expensive than others to get married at. Telling this bride the cost of YOUR city or a city that you stayed in on vacation isn’t helpful at all UNLESS THAT LOCATION IS IN HER CITY. If it’s not her city, you are comparing apples to oranges. Price points differ by location!  OP is in upstate NY, so Boston prices don’t apply.

 

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@ImperialRed:  Have you looked at craft supplies on http://dollartree.com ? They ship free to their stores, and I see they have some locations in Albany.

Post # 60
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@CharleighT:  Awww thanks! I was worried the owl might be a bit harry potter, but they say they can still bring it out to take photos with us. The place has a falconry on the site, so, I am currently trying to convince my fiance that we should sign up for the owl walk the next day. You get to take them through the woods and fly them for about 45 mins! I think I would love it when there is no danger of veil entanglement or owl pellets on wedding dress incidents! If you get an owl to fly your rings you have to post pics!

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