Post # 47
@ImperialRed: I experienced the same thing that you’re finding. I had been engaged once before (and broke that engagement and canceled that wedding) MANY years prior to finally meeting and becoming engaged to my DH.
I obviously knew that inflation would have increased prices dramatically. However, I had NO idea how MUCH more expensive weddings had become between when I had last priced them in the early 1990s and when I actually married in 2009.
My original budget ended up almost tripling.
Post # 48
“clawing m to ribbons”…thisi s the cutest thing I have EVER heard and I’m going to borrow it from you 😉 That sounds AMAZING…I bet your wedding will be GORGEOUS!
Post # 49
I already love you for this reply =) I feel the same way and I just know that I can make it my own…it’s just going to take some time and elbow grease as opposed to if I had a bigger budget. It’s the same way with the open bar bs…FI’s dad paid 15,000k for an open bar for the brother and since he won’t be helping us, an open bar just isn’t an option for the entire night for us. I believe in an open bar HOUR or whatever and champagne toasts but if you don’t have the money, your entire budget can’t go to alcohol. And yet people act like “then don’t have a wedding then!” and it’s just so snarky. Glad I’m not the only one who feels this way!
Post # 50
out of curiosity where in NJ did you find all of that??!?!? My venue is about double for a holiday MONDAY and in NJ : (
It was so difficult to find a venue!
Post # 51
DFW is pretty nutty re: weddings. I still maintain that you can stay within budget and find a suitable venue.
When I recently visited Boston, we stayed at a hotel that charged 20-30k for the wedding venue alone. And yes, it was a swanky hotel.
I think at some point in the planning process you have to make a reality check and decide what is most important for your wedding celebration. Is it hosting 400 guests? Or is it hosting 400 guests at a swanky venue? If that’s what you value, then you need to find a lot more money than 20K to make it happen.
ETA: I’m getting this thread mixed up with the Maryland one.
Post # 52
I don’t think that’s a small budget at all, but I can understand how it might feel like it where you’re located.
I’m getting married in a Scottish Rite temple. It’s gorgeous, historic, and only going to be $1500 for the entire day.We can bring in our own food, alcohol, and everything else, which will save us $$$$. (Our budget is only $16,000)
I tried to find one nearish where you’re located (albany?) but didn’t have much luck. But I know there probably is one, and they’re usually really pretty. If you aren’t skeeved out by the idea of freemasonry–I think it’s cool, but some people think it’s weird–it could be really something to look into. You wouldn’t even need to have it in the off-season, probably, unless you just wated to.
Post # 53
Thanks for the Jiminy Peak tip. We have been looking at ski places but Ive never herd of that one. Were going to set up a tour asap.
Post # 54
I agree with every here. Yes $25,000 is a lot to spend on a wedding, however at the same time its not a lot of money to spend on a wedding.
MY Fiance and I have been together 8 years, almost 10 when we get married. We are paying for the wedding ourselves and without racking up credit cards. Im sure the parents will chip in a bit, maybe even buy my dress or something like that however were not relying on that and were not including that in our budget. Its a tight economy and why set myself up with unrealistic expectations. So I feel like Im a big kid, as long as Im paying my bills on time theres no reason I shouldn’t have the wedding of my (moderate) dreams.
As I mentioned Im in the capital region of NY (between Albany and Saratoga Springs) and its just a more expensive area I guess. So what were doing is being as realistic as possible. Were completely flexible withe the date, were looking in winter because were hoping to benefit from the off season but we will take what we can get. We may have it on a Friday or Sunday. One of his relatives got married on a Thursday at Oheka Castle so I think that a Friday is not taboo 🙂 Were going to reuse decorations, I will DIY anything I have to to make the dollars stretch and I am going to look for a sample dress or a once wed dress.
And if all of this still doesn’t make our dream wedding into our budget (because Im not sure Im comfortable spending more than this on a wedding period) then we can elope at a bed and breakfast in Maine 🙂
P.S. Save-On-Crafts just broke my heart. No I mean really. Im in New York, there in California, shipping is sooooooo expensive 🙁 I had planned on buying my center pieces and 99% of my DIY supplies from there but I didn’t check the shipping until yesterday. I tried to find an alternative and found Koyal Wholesale but they are also on the west cost. Anyone know any east coast craft wholesalers?
Post # 55
We are going to the Stroudsmoor Country Inn in Stroudsburg PA. However, the Venetian in Garfield was 25K for us as well with everything except the photographer and DJ, and the Knoll Country Club (I think that was the name of it) in Parsippany was also 20K for food and beverage and venue… all Saturday nights.
Post # 56
Oh, and My sister got quoted at Perona Farms in Sparta for 18K for food, drinks, and venue. They had her at 20K but her fiance is in the Army so took out the ++ which brought it to 18K. I wanna say like 90 a person including tax and tip?
Post # 57
if you lived where I lived, you wouldnt have any trouble a venue with that budget. My advice is never them your budget and if they ask always tell them a much lower amount, because they are wanting to get as much of your money as possible!
Post # 58
Please don’t assume that she just needs to adjust her expectations. That’s not helpful at all… FYI: Where I live, $20,000 isn’t a swanky hotel wedding. At a $25k budget, you couldn’t even consider hotel venues! Those START at $23,000-25,000 for F&B minimum only (that’s without a 21% service charge, $2,000 ceremony fee, and CA sales tax)…
I wish people would stop assuming that brides in a major metropolitan area like San Francisco, Los Angeles or New York that can’t find a venue under $20k are just being too greedy and only looking at swanky venues…that’s simply NOT TRUE. There are places in this country that are simply more expensive than others to get married at. Telling this bride the cost of YOUR city or a city that you stayed in on vacation isn’t helpful at all UNLESS THAT LOCATION IS IN HER CITY. If it’s not her city, you are comparing apples to oranges. Price points differ by location! OP is in upstate NY, so Boston prices don’t apply.
Post # 59
Have you looked at craft supplies on http://dollartree.com
? They ship free to their stores, and I see they have some locations in Albany.
Post # 60
Awww thanks! I was worried the owl might be a bit harry potter, but they say they can still bring it out to take photos with us. The place has a falconry on the site, so, I am currently trying to convince my fiance that we should sign up for the owl walk the next day. You get to take them through the woods and fly them for about 45 mins! I think I would love it when there is no danger of veil entanglement or owl pellets on wedding dress incidents! If you get an owl to fly your rings you have to post pics!