Post # 1
Hello fellow bees,
My SO and I started dating about a year and a half ago, and within three monthes he was asking to marry me. Not officially, since there was no ring, but he asked me on almost a weekly basis if I would marry him. He talked about a destination wedding, told his best friend, and his sister. We discussed getting married in the spring of 2013, since I told him I would like a long engagement to plan and not be so stressed.
So here I am, waiting and waiting, with every passing holiday thinking “this one’s got to be it”. We looked at rings online, and he even talked told his mother he was going to marry me (when she complained about us living together before marriage).
In the past few months the wedding talk has died down a lot, and now he just says “At our wedding”, or “when we get married”. But he just opened a joint account for both of us, we are openly saving to buy a house together, and we got a dog. His family refers to me as their daughter, and I have been getting some serious vibes that it might happen soon (I saw him looking at ring porn that was mailed to him from Zales, he has been leaving work at random times, and has been extra snuggly). He won’t tell me what he is getting me for Christmas, and jokingly says “you’re getting a hug and a kiss”.
Then, last night I went shopping with his mom. I was talking about how I don’t know what he’s getting me and it bugs me, and she says in a definite voice “Well, I don’t think it’s an engagement ring.” I’m like, um, I never said it was? Very weird. I feel like she is either trying to throw me off, or she really thinks he won’t propose soon. I just don’t know what to think anymore. I know we are going to get married – he’s my soulmate – but WHAT is the holdup? And what does her strange comment mean?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t read too much into her comment, but if you do, I’d take it as a postive sign that she has brought it up as it sounds like she is trying to throw you off the mark. He may also have stopped talking about it because he wants it to come as a bit of a surprise.
By all accounts it sounds like he is DEFINITELY going to propose to you as he has been very open about his intent to marry you. I know it’s hard waiting, but to me it sounds like Christmas might be the time for you 🙂 (fingers crossed)
Post # 4
@mikarla: Thanks for the input! I really feel like it is coming soon, but have also felt that way on other holidays lol. It can be so hard waiting and not talking about it, but I know nagging him won’t make the process go any faster.
I hope you are right about Christmastime, that would be the ultimate gift for the holidays. I’m doing the Christmas Challenge in an effort to be less crazy, and hopefully it works!
Post # 5
@readynwaiting58: Oh that comment would throw me a loop, but your situation sounds oh so famillair, I am still waiting ugh. Hopefully you will not!! Good Luck, hope you get a very shiney xmas present 😀
Post # 6
@dancingunderthestars: Well, I have a weekend update! I spent the weekend in New York with SO’s sister and mother for a pre-christmas shopping trip. Before I left I did some snooping (don’t judge, lol), and found out I am getting diamond earrings for Christmas. They look very pretty, but, it wasn’t quite the diamond I was hoping for.
Anyway, long story short his sister and I were having drinks at the hotel bar, and she confessed that she has been talking to him about our engagement! Apparently, he was going to do it for Christmas, but decided to save up a little more and do it in the summer. I am okay with this, since at least he is thinking about a (soonish) proposal.
So then I drunkenly showed her a picture of the DREAM ring. It has been hidden away in my email for monthes, and I was not sure how to tell him “I want this specific, very expensive diamond. Thanks love.” So, without telling me, she texted him exactly what I wanted. I didn’t know this until I got home last night and saw that he had been looking at THE RING. Gah! So, I may not be getting my Christmas proposal, but at least I’m getting the ring and man of my dreams 🙂 Yay!
Moral of the story – make sure you have an engagement spy. It makes me love his sister even more 🙂
Post # 7
@readynwaiting58: That sounds great! I wish I had an engagment spy! lol. My SO is a man of few words though:(
Diamond earings will be the perfect gift to hold you over until summer 🙂 !!