(Closed) Thought we were done with the guest list…argh!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 19
2609 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

So sorry you’re still dealing with guest list drama. It’s frustrating.

My Future Mother-In-Law keeps telling me she needs to see our guest list sometime so she can figure out who we might have missed or who we need to add. Fiance just tells her NO, flat out NO. Anytime she suggests inviting people – like his great aunt’s cousin’s brother’s nephew – NO, inviting random women she works with or her boss – NO, we’re not inviting our coworkers why would we invite hers? I have a hard time saying no and don’t want to offend her either but we are limited too. I’m very grateful Fiance has no problem just telling Future Mother-In-Law NO, in fact neither do Future Brother-In-Law or FSIL! LOL.

To be fair we did actually miss one cousin when we sent out STDs, she let us know. “Hey, Bob didn’t get a STD” , that one was “OOOPS!!” Mailed one the next day! But aside from that I think we got all the important people otherwise there would have been a lot more complaints about people not getting one.

Ice cream is always helpful! Maybe buy Future Mother-In-Law some when you go out to lunch to lessen the blow. 🙂

I would try to be apologetic (since you seem like you genuinely are) but firm – you are very sorry but you cannot accommodate more people, no matter what, no “creative solutions” are going to work out.

Post # 20
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Twin Oaks Garden House

@DomesticDiva:  OMG girl I feel like I will be going through the same thing. we have 80 we are paying for and any extra we pay on top of and we are at 90 guests so far (it sucks to say it but I hope some RVSP no) and I have a back up list of people I want to invite but others have priority)

My fiance always has someone new to add and I had to put my foot down. SOME OF THEM I HAVE NEVER MET and my Fiance and I have been together for about 9 years! I said NO if I have not met them they are NOT coming!!! He has a small family on his dads and a little larger on his mom (Meixcan family) and some of his moms side cousins he tried to invite (One only because he was in their wedding 20 years ago but yet I’ve never met these people).

and I had to cut my list down (I come from a VERY VERY big Mexican family) and I have to ask myself….who calls me to wish me happy birthday or who invites me to their stuff or even who has me in their phone and calls or texts me every now and then

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