Post # 1
I just found out that my FI’s aunt’s partner’s sister just passed away. We are very close to FI’s aunt and her partner, and the sister had been living here while receiving treatment for cancer, so we knew her well and held her in warm regards. The sister was invited to our wedding, for example.
So my question is, what do you think are thoughtful condolense gifts or gestures? The first thing that comes to mind of course is flowers, but I’ve never been a huge fan of sending flowers in this situation.
Do you all have other thoughts? I would have Fi cook a casserole, but I think the partner’s first reaction is probably to start cooking (she is that type). I think a memorial tree is a great thought, but they have a small urban lot.
Should we send a card for now and see if they name a charity for memorial donations?
Post # 3
I think you’re on the right track, write a nice card about how you felt about the deceased and your aunt and wait to see if they’re naming a charity. Something from the heart is more important than flowers or food.
Post # 4
If you are close by you could offer to help with the funeral arrangements to take some of the stress off FI’s aunt and her partner… I’m sure they would appreciate it.
Post # 5
Instead of flowers you can do a potted plant maybe? They obviously last longer. And the nice card is always special. I really like the idea of a donation, like JeniRae suggested. That would be so touching.
Post # 6
I like the idea of a donation in her memory. You could donate to the American Cancer Society here. You can fill out their address (up to 5 cards can be mailed) and include a note with your condolences.
Sorry to hear about your loss.
Post # 7
You could send like bamboo or something in her honor. Its easy to keep and it means this:
Bamboo: A symbol for longevity (it’s always got green shoots) as well as strength and grace (it bends readily but doesn’t break easily). In Chinese philosophy the straight stem of bamboo symbolizes the path towards enlightenment, the segments of the stem being the steps along the way
Post # 8
Thanks Bees, these are great suggestions. You’re always so helpful.