(Closed) Thoughtful mom or compulsive ring collector?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

I don’t think so! When my great grandmother passed away, I received a bunch of jewlery, as she wore so much. I always think of her whenever I wear it, and it makes me so happy to think that she wore it, or especially picked it out for me. My boyfriend and I were actually thinking of taking one of the aquas she gave me and setting it into my engagement ring!

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am sure there is a strong element of you just wanting a variety of lovely rings to wear. No hate, I promise, I am a collector myself.

You don’t need to stop ‘collecting’ unless it is not affordable to continue!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

As an admitted, unashamed, compulsive ring collector, I think as long as it isn’t causing any financial hardship, collect on bee!  I’m happy to know that one day my daughter is going to have a lovely jewelry collection, (mostly rings). One of my sons picked out a small but really pretty promise ring from my collection to give his gf of one year,  so even though it made me feel kinda old,  it was still sweet that he came to me for something so special to him. 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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MrsFuzzyFace :  That is beautiful! I have an aquamarine baby too, and have been looking for a ring for a while… I’ve technically had 4 “engagement rings” and I am still planning on getting my aquamarine lol. I agree with the others, if you can afford it, keep collecting!

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

While I don’t have anything at all against having a ring collection, to me they’re not engagement rings, they’re just pretty rings you choose to wear on that finger. The engagement ring is the one your Darling Husband gave you the day you agreed to get engaged. 

What is a mothers ring??? 

Post # 7
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Worker bee

What is a traditional “Mothers ring”?

/Someone not from the US

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

If you can afford it, then there is no problem. Jewellery is an investment and I’m sure your girls will love the rings in time, or if not them then perhaps their children!

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

An aquamarine ring that is worn often is unlikely to be in good condition by the time your kids are old enough to use it. Aquamarine is soft and very prone to becoming cloudy with abrasions and dirt over time. It’s not what I would choose if my primary motivation was a future heirloom.

my grandmother purchased equal sized diamonds over her life for every one of her children to inherit. I thought that was a nice idea.

I also agree that other rings are just rings and the engagement ring is the ring your husband proposed with.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think you should collect jewelry you love – for you. It will be associations with particular jewelry that makes your girls want a particular item. My mom has an extensive collection of jewelry, but I could easily select just two items I’d love to inherit — if I was so limited. Neither is anywhere near the most expensive or unique items she owns. I just have strong memories associated with each of them. The same was true of one of my grandmothers. She was a antique dealer and valuable jewelry collector and seller. Yet, when she died, I asked for only one item. It was something she wore every day and just ‘felt’ like her. It was not the most valuable item in her estate. In the end, I inherited several other items, but that one item is the one that I feel most close to her through.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I agree that it’s a beautiful ring that you should add to your collection if you love it. My mother’s mother collected jewelry and my mom inherited it. Sadly to say she ended up selling most of it because it was so out of style by the time my mom received it. She did keep several items that reminded her of her Mom such as a charm bracelet and things of that nature but all of the cocktail rings were huge gaudy 1960-70s pieces that wouldn’t be worn. While that ring is beautiful and very trendy now who knows what the styles will be like when your daughters are older. So if you love it get it for you!

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Agreeing with previous posters, I think that you shouldn’t focus on the seemingly-altruistic motivation of buying a ring for yourself with the idea that your daughter will inherit it someday. The ring may or may not be in good condition when one of your daughters inherits it, and it may or may not be their taste, or even in style by then – so don’t use that as justification. 

You want a beautiful, expensive aquamarine ring for mother’s day. It might be extra sentimental to you because your daughters have aquamarine as their birthstone. That’s fine, if you can easily afford it and you don’t need the money for savings or for other luxuries that you would prefer more, and if you are already maxing out savings accounts for your children’s future college education.

For me, I would rather put an extra $1000 into each daughter’s college savings fund, rather than spend so much on jewelry for myself. Or if I’m already saving plenty for their college, I’d rather use the money for a family trip that will bring joyful memories for everyone. But that’s just me!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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strawbabies :  I didn’t say it was a good investment, just an investment.

If I had £2000 that I could either put into a savings account or buy jewellery with, then I’d put it into savings.

However I enjoy shiny things and would sacrifice going out for coffee over a few months to buy some truly lovely earrings. Its an investment in my own pleasure. A terrible magpie tendancy but if I was going to spend the money on myself anyway I’d save up for some lovely jewellery rather than buy something cheaper that wouldn’t last or would be more likely to break.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

Eh, if you like it then buy it for YOU. That’s it. 

I have made a little collection of rings myself – because I like them. But you have no idea if your daughters will like jewelery, find it in or to their style, feel connected to it, or wish you had put that money into savings for their education or future house fund instead.

My mother is terminally ill. She has some lovely gemstone rings and it is possible my siblings and I may receive some pieces – she also wishes some to good to some good friends – but honestly there are only one or two pieces of hers I feel a connection to, and both were actually pieces with minimal monetary value she inherited from her mother. My sister is not really a jewelery wearer and has teeny fingers so would not even be able to wear any of the rings (resizing would be too significant and damaging).

I’ll remember my own mother by her acts, her spirit, and her character, and through memories of experiences with her. I also feel far more sentimental to those things she put her love and time into making – quilts, drawings, memory books and so on – then by things she bought in her lifetime.

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