(Closed) thoughts?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I juuuust read that article!  I think it’s really strange.  Those parents should not be conducting sociological experiments on their poor children.  So wrong.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I don’t know how to feel about this. This just can’t be healthy for the child…

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think that’s crazy. How long do they honestly think that they can keep that a secret? Will noone else ever see the baby? Weirdos…

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it is really interesting 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Eh, I’m sure they can let it last awhile especially since I think they’ll homeschool“unschool”.  Their children are isolated as it is.  I think though when the child is an adult, they’ll have issues with their parents.  I don’t like pre-determined gender roles but I also don’t like the idea of quelching a child’s interest in things that may align with gender roles simply b/c you’re trying to make a stance on the issue.  By the way, I’m pretty sure the birth certificate has to have the gender and if they go to the doctor at all, the doctor will have to know and when the child goes for a license, they’ll have to indicate gender.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I read this a couple days ago.

They aren’t keeping the baby a secret. they are keeping it’s genitals a secret and therefore, ‘people’ are having a hard time assigning behaviours and norms to the baby.

I’ll honestly say that i would not do this with my own child but i can appreciate what this challenges. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Also, it looks to me that they’re dressing this child like a boy.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

That baby totally looks like a boy. And I think what they are doing is totally wack. Why would you do that to your children????

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2000

It’s interesting …. 

But until children are able to make decisions on their own it’s their parents job to guide them, love support and teach them. I don’t think putting Jonny or Jane in pink or blue has much to do with who they will become. Shoot! I’m 31 and my mother was telling when what she “preferred” for my wedding bouquet, while I gently told her “um…noooo”.. lol 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m sure the comments here will mimic the comments on the other sites that are posting this article. I find it annoying that the typical response is always that they are  ‘using their child to attract attention’ when what they are doing is something that is challenging societal norms.

Everyone wants everyone to fall in line. 

If the child isn’t assigned a gender – guess what? The child will be fine. I promise. It just won’t be like you. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Mollytov: I don’t really get your comment. I was bald for 2 years after birth, so my parents always had to fight to prove I was a girl if I wasn’t wearing anything girly enough, they even pierced my ears at a few weeks old so it would help people.  But, they never cared what I did from a gender stand point. I had an older brother, so it was totally acceptable for us both to play with each others toys, and they never said otherwise.  We grew up on the boat in the summer with our dad, and I was never afraid to get dirty or act one way or the other.

I don’t think that hiding ones gender is the answer – its how you raise your child that counts. I was raised to not look at people’s gender, race, religion, and to just see the person for who they are. You can’t control how other people portray you or your children, regardless if they are known as one gender or another.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

wow… that is ridiculous…

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I don’t really see the big deal.  The baby’s only 4 months old at this point, and, in my experience, babies don’t really understand the relationship between sex and gender until they are much older.  Babies are very much androgynous creatures for the first part of their lives, so I don’t see any harm in ignoring sex and gender roles this early on.  Presumably, the baby in the story will discover his/her sex organs and begin asking questions about genitals/sex/gender/etc… just like any other normal kid would around the age of 2.  Until those questions come up, though, I don’t think any harm can come of putting sex and gender on the backburner.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Mrs. Spring: Yeah, but she is doing this with her older boys, and they are starting to ask the parents to introduce them as boys. I think at that point, it is going too far just to prove a point

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