Thoughts? Baby timeline pushed back a year.

posted 7 months ago in 30 Something
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

I had my firsts 3 months shy of turning 33 years old. I too was concerned about fitting in a second but ‘luckily’ It was twins so that’s removed the pressure. Although I wouldn’t have any more now because twins pregnancy and twins in general are intensely difficult, and I don’t want more than two kids, I feel fairly confident that had I only had one baby I would have felt ok about trying for a second around 34/35years old. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

You’re in a pretty similar position to us, married this September and wanting to have our financial ducks in a row for a house purchase. I’m 31, hubby has just turned 31. Originally we had thought after getting married we’d start trying early 2019, but we have fallen for a new build house that won’t be built till late 2019/early 2020. Add the earliest possible moment I’ll be 33 for our first, and I admit I am concerned about it! Sometimes being sensible sucks!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

You wouldn’t be able to afford a house if you got pregnant in 2019 but if you got pregnant in 2020 after you have the house, you could afford the house and the baby? Is something going to change in another year that makes you think you will be able to afford both?

Or are you referring to a down payment? I’m not attacking you or anything, I’m really just curious

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

If delaying another year puts you in a better financial position and puts you right where you want to be when you have a baby, I say delay it a year.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I vote house! Not sure where you’re from, but where I am 30 is not old, it’s average. Early-mid 30s is totally normal. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

sunnybee88 :  I don’t get why you can afford both if the house comes first but not the other way around. I’d do baby on your original timeline just in case you have any issues – better to find out earlier than later. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee

I’m just a tad older than all of you😝I do agree with planing it out and I truly understand trying to give yourself goals and timelines but I just want to throw this out there…. We have plans for life and sometimes life has other plans for us. Try and I say TRY (I tend to stress and have a timeline also so I say TRY) BUT try to just let things happen naturally and enjoy the moments as they come!! I myself am TRYING to do the SAME ( during the timelines and wedding planning)

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Why won’t you buy a house now and start TTC when you move in? Even if it happens right away you’ll still have 9 months until baby arrives which would be basically 2020 anyway. I don’t see the point of putting it off but maybe I’m missing something here! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I would TTC after you move in. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ugh. Such a hard call. 

I think you have to have a serious conversation with your husband about your priorities. For example, if you could only have one, either the house or the child, which would you pick? This is clearly hypothetical and in all likelihood you won’t have any problems achieving both goals, but which is really your priority? It’s easy to put off trying with the assumption that things will work out down the road, but couples don’t always get pregnant on the first try… or on multiple other tries… In short, if you’re going to wait, be really clear on why, how and when your housing goals will come to fruition. Because you can plan for houses, but babies are really another matter. 

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