(Closed) thoughts on expensive dresses

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 31
6271 posts
Bee Keeper

If money is no object then go for it if it’s what you want. 

Personally, I struggle with the idea of spending so much on an item you’ll wear for such a short space of time – but to someone else it might feel like a lifetime of dress perfection for them that is worth the price. 

I didn’t buy it, but the most expensive thing I own to wear is my e-Ring. Others may say it’s crazy to spend what was spent on a little lump of carbon. To me it was a ‘dream come true’ thing as to we worn 24/7 forever so it seems ‘justified’ compared to a dress for 12 hours or whatever. But like I say, I can fully understand why an expensive gown is someone’s life time dream.

i do think for the very top end designers, the cut and fabric etc makes a difference. If that’s a difference worth paying thousands for is up to each bride. 

my dress budget is small by bridal standards (£500).  maybe I’m kidding myself but I do believe that there is not always a direct correlation between dress cost and style. 

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Post # 32
11533 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I wanted a well made dress with good materials. I am a fabric snob, because my mom and grandmother taught me to be one:-)

I lucked out because I had done work for Monique L before and knew I was a perfect sample size of hers, so when I found the dress I wanted, which was $9k, I hunted for a sample version until I found one. win win. 

Post # 33
2134 posts
Buzzing bee

At first, my budget was $500. I found a nice dress from Macy’s but didn’t feel “bridal”. I found a dress at a bridal store that I liked, so I went with it. With hollow-to-hem, it came out to be $1042. I’m only doing this once so I didn’t want to regret my decision.

Post # 34
3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

I’m not anticipating having a huge budget for my wedding to begin with, so I will not be having a dress that costs more than my grad school tuition. I’ll likely get one that’s a few hundred dollars and I’m even open to renting. I like the idea of having my dress forever, but I know that I’ll never wear it again so I’m not going to break the bank just for the dress. 

Post # 35
14 posts
  • Wedding: May 2016

We have a wedding gown rental place in my area called “Something Borrowed”.  I am going to check them out this week.

Post # 36
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

I would wear an expensive dress as long as I didn’t go into debt getting it. 

I wouldn’t care if anyone else knew the designer or how much I paid for it, because I’m not wearing the dress for other people, I’m wearing it for me. I would, for example, wear a $1,000.00+ wedding gown even if I eloped. 

I don’t think paying a lot of money for a dress you wear once is a bad thing. I see the value in wedding dresses, no matter the price, as soon as I start looking at wedding pictures from recent years all the way back to the 1800s. It’s so much fun to see designs I thought were new in a photo from 1920, designs I’ve never seen before, or an idea from a wedding that happened decades ago that I can use to help someone now. There’s so much information in wedding photos and video, and a lot of the information comes from the fashion.  

Wedding dresses are priceless in my opinion. Get what you can afford of course, but there’s no need to get the cheapest or plainest dress just because you’ll probably only wear it once. The photos and video will likely last for decades, and they will serve as a record of how things were at the time of the wedding. They may also serve as inspiration for a future weddings. 

Post # 37
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I haven’t gone dress shopping yet, but I am so enamored by a lot of Vera dresses. I live near NYC, so I definitely plan on visiting her salon and comparing them to other less expensive dresses. If I fall in love with one of hers, and if I feel the quality really is higher, I’ll probably buy it. The way I see it, the pictures are going to last a lifetime. I would probably resell it too. Maybe another bride will get to wear a dress she otherwise wouldn’t be able too.

Post # 38
3040 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I think it’s to each their own. Sure, you only wear it for one day but…if you plan to pass it down to a daughter one day…I think it’s worth the money. Even if you don’t and it just makes your day…then it’s worth it.

I’ll be purchasing two bridal ao dai. One at around 400 and one at around 200-300. So for my western dress…I really just want something inexpensive. If I was only needing one dress then I could see spending more on just that one dress.


Edit to add: The framing idea is really neat! Awesome idea.

Post # 39
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Slingshot:  wow that is an awesome idea. if only my closet was bigger!! haha

Post # 40
1455 posts
Bumble bee

Well, personally, I think like 95% of the haute couture wedding dresses I’ve seen are absolutely hideous, and the other 5% are just “okay”, so no I wouldn’t drop a ton of money on one lol

Post # 41
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Since i was a teenager i always said money was no object when it came to THE DRESS. I ended up going to klienfelds, with a budget of 3K because i fell in love it the dress. I really didnt expect to get a dress my first time out or spend that much, but im happy i did. It will be worth it and I will prob sell it after the wedding, its a rare dress.

I also had some help from family paying for it. But i paid for about 70% of it, and Im proud of that.

Post # 42
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I really want to keep mine under 750- I’m having a frendor if you will make mine- but as someone else said- “fabric snob”.. I am also one. 


so buying anythign remotely close to satin polysester isnt’ happening- and that’s what a bulk of the 99 sale DB dresses are. Sorry not sorry I sew and I want to feel like I can take a bath in buttery fabric when I’m wearing it.


Being said- I’m not willing to spend more than 1000 on it- so if that’s mostly fabric and labor and minimal embellishments- so be it. 

Post # 43
1569 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

marinarosalin:  Wait. Someone on Wedding Bee has a $50k gown?! I have to see that!

Post # 44
1888 posts
Buzzing bee

I mean, if I were rich and famous and pictures of my wedding gown were going to be all over the magazines and gossip blogs, yeah, I think it would be worth it to invest in a top designer. But I’m having a more casual, outdoor wedding with a BBQ buffet, so I’m looking to spend around $500 for the whole outfit, tops, and will probably go vintage or off the rack.

I don’t know anything about wedding dresses, so I wouldn’t know the cost of a bride’s dress unless someone told me. I would only judge someone for spending a lot on a gown if they skimped on food & drinks for their guests. Otherwise, go nuts! It would make me feel sick to my stomach to spend thousands on one dress–that’s a vacation I could take instead! But I think others should do what makes them happy.

Post # 45
1888 posts
Buzzing bee

One of my friends is spending $5-6k on her dress, and is getting all kinds of judgment from her mom about it, but that is money that my friend worked hard to earn, including putting herself through medical school. I feel really bad for my friend.

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