(Closed) thoughts on expensive dresses

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 46
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36 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Even though my fiance and I have somewhat of a “disposable” income, for a dress I will only wear once, I cringe at the thought of spending thousands of dollars! I have not purchased one yet, but I have tried on a few. A friend suggested to me that if you find a designer gown (or any gown, really) that you love, try finding it preowned. A lot of women sell their dresses online for a fraction of the cost and they have been professional cleaned and well taken care of.

 

Post # 47
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2251 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I spent $2100 on my gown, and don’t regret a penny.  It was worth it for every minute i wore it. I did have a reasonable limit on how much i was willing to spend.  my ceiling was 3000, but bottom was not less than $1500. For  each their own,  I guess.

Post # 48
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3306 posts
Sugar bee

At first we set our budget at $2000 max. However, when I went gown shopping absolutely NO dresses were anywhere near what I knew I wanted. I have always had expensive taste unfortunately, and I always gravitated towards the expensive gowns of around $8k. After much frustration and guilt I decided to have my gown custom made. I would still feel guilty and awful now if my mum hadn’t paid for the material so Fiance & I are only paying for the dressmaker which is $1800 and under our original budget.

At the end of the day I knew I wouldn’t be wearing a dress I LOVED unless it was custom made to match the vision I had in my mind.

And what the hell, this is my ONE chance to wear something so nice, I’ve worked my ass off for the past 5 years, I deserve it!

Post # 49
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2553 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

jmj1021:  My dress originally retailed for $1100, which I was willing to pay, until I found out it was discontinued and I could only buy the sample at $350.  And I bragged to everyone who would listen about how affordable it was.  But I’m that girl who gets compliments on Payless shoes or H&M jeans and can’t help but announce proudly how little they cost.

Post # 50
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

When we walked into the store my budget was 1000 or under. We started pulling dresses and unfortunately the first dress I put on was pulled by the lady at the store, a Sophia Tolli. I fell in love with it. I found my dress at double my budget. My mom and I agreed with was worth it though. The store was having a 20% off special orders I ended up paying $1,998 before alterations. I’m hoping we won’t have to do much.  

Post # 51
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1146 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

jmj1021:  I wore Oscar de La Renta. Don’t regret it at all. Yes, people in my circle can tell the difference between couture and non. To me the material and the fit of a high end couture gown vs. a mass produced one are not comparable at all.

I looked at it like I only get married once and wanted my perfect, special dress. For me, that meant Oscar de la Renta. I have always loved Oscar and still feel a little flutter every time I look at a picture of it! I’m sure I would feel the same way about my pictures and wedding since I married an incredible man about whom I am incredibly passionate, but I wanted the solid marriage, great man, AND dream dress. Nothing wrong with having it all — what truly matters AND the superficial stuff. I would do it again in a heartbeat.

Post # 52
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38 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I am a HUGE label snob, HUGE!! I buy designer everything. I love knowing I have ‘the best’ name of something. I shop online almost every day and spend an obscene amount of money on clothes, bags and shoes. Yet, the dress is the one item of clothing I don’t want to spend a lot on. I personally do not think an expensive dress is worth it. If you have an amazing tailor, anything you buy can look amazing. I have almost every thing I buy tailored, the fit is the difference.

Post # 53
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3185 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

jmj1021:  I bought adress for 20 bucks but after going to a few shops I can tell the difference. Its looking like I’m going to be spending a lot more for a dress. I’m a little upset by it but Fiance told me to go for it. I’m from the poor working class Fiance isn’t so he didn’t understand my excitement for buying a dress for 20 bucks. I showed everyone the dress and except for two people and you lovely bees no one liked it. My dress budget is now $7,500. MY Fiance is getting a bespoke tux. So he will still cost more than me… Yikes.

Post # 54
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2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

kam914:  Well you can get it framed smaller, too! I am just a spoiled brat. But. I am 5’2″ so. It shouldnt take up TOO MUCH room. LOL

I’ve seen them in more of a shadow box type ordeal. 

Post # 55
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5221 posts
Bee Keeper

I try not too judge people by how they spend their money. It’s not my business. The thing is, what some of these designers charge for a dress is the height of narcissism. 

This dress was a custom Pnina. It was $35,000. The bride is now wanting to sell it for $11,500. I don’t care if I was a billionaire, I’m not spending $35,000 on a dress. 

This looks like any David’s bridal or Alfred Angelo dress. If I saw it at a wedding,  I’d assume that’s where it’s from.

Post # 56
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93 posts
Worker bee

jmj1021:  My wedding dress is an Inbal Dror from her 2015 line. My dress was a VERY GENEROUS gift from my parents. They gave me a budget and I was actually under it (and I was sort of savvy too. I knew another bridal store was having a trunk show so I got my store to price match them! Score!). It was still around $10k, which, again, was under the budget they gave me! But honestly, where I’m from, it’s not unheard of to spend a lot on wedding dresses. Obviously, the range is huge! In my small group of friends, the lowest I know of is $5k without alterations, which I think is okay. If I was buying my own, I’d probably spend no more than $2-5K.

The CRAZIEST thing I’ve ever heard though is that one of my friends spent $2000 on her VEIL! That seems insane to me! But hey, if you’ve got the money, why not? Plus it looked AMAZING on her, so there’s that!

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Post # 57
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

jmj1021:  I wore a Monique Lhuillier dress that cost a pretty penny. It was a gift from my extremely generous uncle who lost his battle with terminal cancer 9 months before my wedding. During a trip to visit him with my mom, he suggested that we all go dress shopping. I couldn’t pass up that experience with him, even knowing that dresses at the bridal salons he booked would be above the 4k budget that my Darling Husband and I set. My uncle made it clear right off the bat that he wanted to purchase my dress as a gift and that I was to try on anything I fancied (he later told me that he thought a typical wedding dress cost about 20k…the man lived on a whole different level…). We all fell in love with my dress at my first appointment and that was that. Even though it cost more than I would have spent if I purchased a dress myself, I have zero regrets. I wore the most beautiful wedding dress and, more importantly, felt like I had a piece of my uncle with me that day.

Post # 58
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6723 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Personally, even though I had plenty in my savings account, I could never justify in my own head spending as much money on a wedding dress as the average person appears to.  I would just be constantly going over everything else I could have spent it on.  $1200 is a house payment for us.  It’s gifts for the holidays, vacation time, or dinner out for months on end. I am not about to throw that away on a gown I wear once and probably wouldn’t even be comfortable in.  Luckily (in a way), my friends and much of my family got married before I did.  I had a chance to see what did and didn’t work – who was exhausted from hauling around a gown all day, who looked cool and comfortable.  My family all went cheap and relaxed for their own weddings and so did I.  We may not look like models but we sure were able to run around in our dresses all day.  

Mine was under $72 on sale, tea-length-ish with a bright orange crinoline that ran $40.  My shoes, for what it’s worth, were $13 on Amazon.  I’ll probably never wear those again but that’s just fine.  I can wear my wedding dress for halloween and I have another dress my crinoline will look great with if I ever need it again.

For what it’s worth, the industry wouldn’t be able to charge so much if people didn’t keep running out there desperate to buy name brands that no one at their ceremony even notices and spent that money on something else instead. (that goes for other wedding-related expenses as well).  I don’t believe for one minute that the dress mentioned above, even custom made, was actually worth $50,000.  But if someone pays it, there you are.  And kudos to the person who sold it!

Post # 59
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5364 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I have two kinda expensive dress (5k and 3k) so I could’ve had a pretty expensive dress for that….but I don’t think I would spend the money on inbal because I really don’t like most of the dresses, but I do like some of the other more expensive designers…but still probably wouldn’t pay it.

Post # 60
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1700 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

steen425:  Sorry if I phrased that confusingly! Someone posted a “help me find this gown” and posted a gown that’s been floating all around pintrest. Someone finally told her it was $50k and I think everyone realized that to most that infamous pintrest dress was unrealistic. 

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