Post # 76
bride2bee2020 : A gap like this would be incredibly, like draw droppingly, rude and show poor planning and a lack of respect for guests, I would check it wasn’t a misprint on the invite – in MY culture. If you fancy a gap then go for it! I should hope your guests value your values and beliefs enough to respect your choices. This decision is only for you, but if inviting any non local catholics I would make it exceptionally clear on the invite that it is deliberate and they are welcome at both ceremony and reception.
Post # 77
I do find a large gap in between the ceremony and the reception to be inconvienient, unless you’re talking about a UK wedding where the guests expect to spend their entire day celebrating the event(but in that case, I think most of it is hosted). Personally, I’m fine spending time at a restaurant or bar in my nice clothes. I can entertain myself and I find downtime to either talk with my spouse or friends or catch up on my social media while having a drink to be pleasureable. I wouldn’t be bored. However, I understand the objection. I wouldn’t do this to my guests both because I think many would find it inconvenient and because I think it would kill the momentum of the evening. I want my guests to be fresh and ready to dance and mingle, not tired out from hours of drinking at a bar or groggy from their mid afternoon nap. For me, the choice would be to either have an afternoon reception or get married in a non-Catholic church in the early evening.
Post # 78
Just came back to say that making your guests wait three hours “just because you like an evening reception more” and “who cares what’s comfortable I think it’ll be worth the wait so therefore others will think so too” is really rude, no matter what culture you’re in.
I promise you, VERY few people in this world have that opinion. Unless you are a Kardashian, your evening reception will not be worth a three-hour wait, and I promise, no one is going to whine about the lack of an evening reception.
Now if you are FORCED to have a three-hour wait, there’s nothing you can do, and you’re somewhat redeemed. But if you can make your wait shorter, afternoon receptions are equally beautiful. Probably more beautiful, because the happiness of your guests is seriously all that matters.