(Closed) Thoughts on a dry wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

catgela:  Well, you know your guests better than any random Bee, so it’s hard to make a call on this one. Maybe just have a bottle of wine at each table? The people that don’t drink can opt out, and the people who do drink can have just enough to satisfy them without getting drunk. Where I’m from it’s considered rude for a wedding to be without an open bar, but that’s obviously regional. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

This is one of those contentious topics and you’ll get a lot of different opinions on here. I will say I think you should throw the kind of party you would like to attend. And the kind of party people in your family will want to attend. 

I think some kinds of celebrations are more amenable to being dry events – a cake and punch reception or a brunch reception. It sounds like the earlier time of day would help with that in your case, though I would be comfortable having champagne at 5:30 at a wedding.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

As a person who doesn’t care for alcohol, a dry wedding wouldn’t bother me at all.  You can use sparkling cider for your toasts, no problem.  Anyone who makes a comment to you and yours is rude, rude, rude.

That being said, people do seem more free when there’s alcohol involved and the party may be more exciting that way.  Ours was so casual it really didn’t matter, but I suggested that be my parents’ contribution as they wanted to do something for us – that way they could take home the extra.  So they bought beer and that was the only alcohol we had.  People inhaled the root beer, lemonade and coffee too!

As PPs said, you know your friends/family best!

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

catgela:  I think it’s fine. If people can’t have fun without alcohol, they have a problem. Especially when you’re doing it early and would have a bunch of additional hoops to jump through.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

For a second I thought I might be in the minority here. I like having a drink or two at weddings, but I have no problem with dry weddings. There’s no reason guests can’t still have a good time and celebrate your marriage without liquor present. You shouldn’t have to break your budget just for alcohol.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

PPs brought up a lot of good points. In my experience I only have attended one dry wedding which was for religious reasons. The younger crowd at the wedding had a good time but there was a general sense of disappoint. It seemed others at the wedding didn’t mind as much but that being said it did wrap up quite early for a later wedding (started at 6). Yours is a little different though since you want it finished by 7. Would having a bottle of wine at the table be something you may consider? Might be nice with a meal. It could be an option for those who wish to indulge and those who are opposed could have non-alcoholic options. Ultimately, only you know your guests but if you’re unsure perhaps discuss this with your fiance and immediate family.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

If it jives with your personalities, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a dry wedding. People shouldn’t require alcohol to have a good time. For any toasts, you can always serve sparkling apple cider. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I’m doing a brunch wedding. No one in my circle is big drinkers. I’m doing a dry wedding, I think they would be surprised if I had alcohol

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 4 months ago by  PBeeWriter.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I love drinking, I love getting tipsy at fun weddings, but I would not be in any way upset if someone chose to not have booze at their wedding.  Anyone that would get really upset about it is probably not at your wedding for the right reasons.  

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

catgela:  We also had a dry wedding, with no dancing!  People told us after that our wedding was super fun.  All depends on your crowd.  Some people will be annoyed, but hey guess what? You’re the host.  If you go to dinner at a non-drinker’s house, do you expect them to serve you wine? Not if you’re polite 😉 

Don’t stretch your budget for something you won’t enjoy.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

If the whole event will be over by 7 I don’t think anyone would care if it was dry. I don’t drink either, we are having beer/wine at our wedding, but only because it will be going late into the night and everyone will be staying at the hotel on the property.

As pp have said, sparkling cider should work for toasts

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It is your wedding, your call.  I do think beer and wind is a good choice.  I do not even see a need for champagne, you can toast with wine.  

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We had a completely dry wedding, no alcohol at all. If someone is actually disappointed that there isn’t alcohol at a wedding, that’s an issue they need to deal with.

We had one person complain (My husband’s uncle) but everybody else was A-OK with it.

ETA: We toasted with sparkling cider. Our reception was over by 5.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

As long as it suits you and your guests I think its perfectly ok especially if its not a late evening wedding. You can toast with wine or cider. If you want to do something maybe you could do a bottle or two of wine per table and once its gone its gone. 

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