(Closed) Thoughts on a lingerie shower?

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Post # 3
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We did this for one of my close friends last year and it was a blast! There was a wide range of stuff from skimpy lingerie to super cute pajamas. I did the gift where I gave her a pair for events like wedding night, honeymoon, first anniversary, first baby (a blue pair and a pink pair), so on and then the last one was a pair of granny panties. 

Post # 4
1132 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think it all depends on how you think your guests will feel at a lingerie shower. My family is very tightly wound and they would not be happy with a lingerie shower one bit. I also wouldn’t be comfortable with it because I am shy when it comes to that.

But if you think your guests will be open to it then go for it. 

Post # 5
5486 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I love the idea!  Go for it and who cares what people think!  It’s all about you now!

Post # 6
4107 posts
Honey bee

i love the idea of a lingerie shower. that’s what i used to think showers were based on  movies i watched growing up, lol.  i really wanted one, but was too shy to tell my sister and mother who were organizing my shower, so i just went to Victoria’s Secret before our wedding/honeymoon and bought a couple of things myself.

Post # 7
7941 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think it all depends on your feelings and the overall feelings of your guests that you intend to invite. If you love the idea and you think your guests will go along with it than by all means do it.


For me personally I think they are crass but that is my humble opinion and my Maid/Matron of Honor knew that. I am just not comfortable with family and friends purchasing me underwear etc. She and I also knew that my conservative family members would not appreciate the overall atmosphere either and would be quite uncomfortable. For us it wasn’t the right thing so we opted for the typical registry items.

My DH and I lived together for nearly five years before we married and didn’t need the typical newlywed things either BUT we really have been enjoying completely updating and redecorating our home using credits from our registry. 🙂

Post # 8
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have been a guest at a lingerie shower. I think that they’re great, so long as the guest of honor isn’t easily embarassed by such things. I probably wouldn’t invite your grandma to a lingerie shower, but there are options for guests that feel akward about giving intimates to you such as candles or a silk robe. I thought that it was nice that the favor at the shower that I went to was a lavendar drawer sachet. 


Post # 9
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m a total prude so I wouldn’t like one. I also don’t share TMI-ish information of this nature with my friends. The idea of my FI’s sister or our friends picking out sexy/scanty lingerie for me (and FI!) and thinking about me in it weirds me out. I know, I sound crazy. With this in mind, I probably wouldn’t attend one either.

Post # 10
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I am going to my first one in a few weeks. It is a surprise and I feel like the bride is going to be uncomfortable with it. I would not want to one, but I think it is a fun idea as long as the bride enjoys it.

Post # 11
9168 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I personally do not want other people buying my lingerie!  I know plenty of women who have done it and enjoyed it (never been to one) but I can’t say I’d personally enjoy it as the bride – I would probably enjoy it as a guest though!

Post # 12
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

In my circle of friends we always do lingerie showers tied to the bachelorette party, and a regular bridal shower. I wouldn’t be very comfortable opening that type of stuff in front of my aunts and other family, but if you are and your friends don’t do it at the bachelorette I would say go for it!

Post # 13
1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think it depends on your guest list and your personality.  My shower would have been cut down to less than 10 people if I were going the lingerie route but that’s just me.  I’d be too embarassed to ask my husband’s family, my aunt’s, cousins, family friends, and coworkers for lingerie.

Post # 14
1648 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MissDW:  I was going to suggest this! I think this is the best way to do it. I wouldn’t want a lingerie shower instead of a bridal shower, but I think its nice in addition to the bachelorette party. I wouldnt want to leave out older guests, but I can’t imagine opening up a lace see through teddy with my nana present. Also, it’s not just the bride that may be uncomfortable. I wouldn’t want to make any family or friends uncomfortable by asking them to buy me underwear! Also, as the recipient, I’d be nervous that people would buy me stuff that just wasn’t my style and then I’d feel bad returning it, but otherwise, it would sit unworn. It’s not like you can register at VS!

Post # 15
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Padua Hills Theater

My close friends threw me a lingere shower and we had a blast. Most people went to Victoria secret an suprisingly I didn’t have any repeat gifts. I say go for it! It’s so much fun!

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