- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2016
My fiance and I have been together for four years. Three years ago, he proposed. We were both very young and at that time I was suffering through several undiagnosed mental disorders. I know I pressured him into proposing. A bunch of my friends were getting engaged and I wanted that too. Fast forward to today and we are very much in love and a very strong couple however we recognize that we got engaged far too young. To our families and friends, being engaged means planning a wedding. We want to get married one day but when we are both ready for that – that could be in a year or maybe ten years.
We’ve talked and he’s told me that in a few years when he feels mentally and emotionally ready to truly propose, he’ll do so in a way more romantic way than he did originally and he’d do it when he can afford my dream ring (it’s nothing lavish but its been my dream since I was a little girl). I think its a great idea and he does too. After that official proposal then we can plan our wedding, etc. He is actually really looking forward to planning the proposal and saving up for my ring.
Right now, we are just together but we don’t call each other fiance anymore. One of my concerns is when we do get re-engaged I want to be able to tell my family and friends how he proposed and show them my new ring. I am worried they won’t understand or think we are being selfish or show-offy. We just weren’t ready to be engaged and we did it too soon. He and I both would like to have a do-over when we are mentally and emotionally prepared to be engaged.
What are your thoughts on a second engagement? I don’t want to offend anyone or step on any toes but over all it is about us and what makes us happy but at the same time, I value my family’s opinions and I don’t want to offend any one.
I was thinking maybe it when it does happen, post a picture of the ring on Facebook (I only use it to keep in touch with family) with a post explaining how we originally got engaged too young and we weren’t prepared to be engaged and married at that point and that we decided to hold off and back up a bit until the timing was right for us. What are your thoughts?