(Closed) Thoughts on a very modest ring!

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What would you think?

    He's financially smart

    She has inexpensive taste

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    Wouldn't think twice about it!

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  • Post # 61
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Uh. My husband bought me a modest ring and he makes well over 6 figures. I guess I was just more interested in buying a nice home, having a nice wedding, traveling to cool places, and starting a life with him than how much he spent on my ring. But I suppose everyone has their opinions on what they think is important for a couple to prioritize in their relationship

    So. No I wouldn’t think twice about it.

    Post # 62
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    Jabberwocky:  are you talking about thickness, or width?

    Post # 63
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    Duncan:  Width. 

    Post # 64
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I’d just assume that was the ring she wanted. 😀

    Post # 65
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I wouldn’t side-eye a modest ring. I mean, Mark Zuckerberg drives a VW and I know a tech billionaire’s wife who has a small diamond (between .25 – .5 cts).

    I also know a couple who complain about where they live (somewhere in the East Bay where housing is relatively cheap) because they can’t afford to live in SF, but the wife rocks a 2ct diamond. It’s just about priorities.

    Post # 66
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    Jabberwocky:  That’s interesting; I’ve not seen many men with rings less than 6 mm wide, which was also the smallest size I found in stores, or online, in good, steel, carbide, tungsten, etc.  Anything smaller, everywhere I looked, was sold as a woman’s ring.  I’ve never met another man with a ring as narrow mine.

    Post # 67
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    Duncan:  Must be a cultural thing. I’ll have to pay more attention to men’s hands next time I’m in the US. 

    Post # 68
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I have a friend who recently got engaged, and I was unimpressed with her Fiance, to say the least. It had nothing to do with how much he spent on the ring, but moreso the lack of thought or effort he put into purchasing it (I helped get her ring size, so i was kind of in the loop). He was going to save money to buy her a ring, but instead blew the money on computer parts, and when he finally did get around to buying it, it was just kind of a walk into the store, I’ll take that one, kind of deal. The ring is nice, but I think the effort counts more than the cost. If i had just seen the ring and not known the story, I would have thought it was lovely. Their whole relationship leaves a bit of a sour taste in my mouth though, so that could taint my opinion 😛

    ETA: To answer your question, if she seemd really happy, i wouldnt question it. If she seemed embarassed, awkward or hesitant to show the ring, I’d raise a mental eyebrow.

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    Post # 69
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2006

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    charlie486:  I don’t think it necessarily means any of those things. In the 8 years that we’ve been married, I’ve switched up my e-ring several times, and each time was what some would call a “downgrade.” I started with a 2ct diamond solitaire, then a 2cttw three stone ring, then a 1ct solitaire, and now I’ve got a three stone sapphire and diamond ring that comes in at about .75cttw. I feel like this latest ring, while certainly the cheapest of the bunch, suits memuch better than the other ones. I did keep the other ones though, sometimes I want more bling, but rarely. I figure I’ll be able to give them to my nieces someday.

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    Post # 70
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Personally, we went small and reasonable. It’s antique, sparkly, beautiful and I love it. All $300 of it. Even if we had lots of extra cash laying around, it would have been a similar story.

    The people I know with the most money often have the most pragmatic jewlery. A person doesn’t get rich by spending their money on an engagement ring!

    I am WAY faster to stop and wonder about a big one than a small one.

    Post # 71
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

    After Fiance and I had been dating for 4 years we talked about marriage very openly. It was something we both wanted, and were waiting for the right time. Then one day he confessed that he felt obligated to buy me a big diamond, because of what everyone else would think. Due to our Financial situation (we were saving to buy a house) he just didnt think he could afford the ring he thought I deserved. I told him that the ring is a symbol of our commitment to each other, not a status symbol for others to criticize. Shortly after he proposed with a very modest ring and I couldn’t be happier. Its beautiful, dainty, feminine, and has a bit of whimsy. Most importantly, the love of my life picked it out especially for me because he thought it was perfect And surprised me with an amazing proposal.  

    Most people compliment my ring, and although I will never know what they really think, it doesn’t really matter because I am happy with it. I have only ever had one person criticize the size of my stone. It was a coworker who used her mom’s diamond from her parent’s marriage that ended in divorce. She took the ring to the jeweler and picked out a new setting. Her diamond may be bigger, but she got a hand me down from a divorce and practically proposed to herself.  

    Post # 72
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    Newbee

    I guess it depends. Some of the most frugal people I know are very well off. They got that way because of a combo of hard work and being smart with money. My SO and I bring in a decent paycheck, but I refuse to buy a diamond, much less a ring over $1000. The amount of money you spend isn’t equal to the love you share. It’s almost silly to waste money on a ring. If you are worried about people making fun of you, or you run in high class social circles, I feel for you. I don’t have friends that would snub their noses at my ring, when I get one. If they did, they wouldn’t truly be my friend. 

    I ddon’t know. Just can’t wrap my head around spending that kind of money. I have no plan either, to spend money on a lavish wedding. I try not to get caught up in all the hoopla and drama that it comes with. I’m actually planning on eloping, spending the money on our honeymoon and throwing a heck of a reception a few months later. 🙂 

     

    Just my two cents. 

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