(Closed) Thoughts on baby/pregnancy in early 30s?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m currently pregnant – due in 2 weeks. I was 30 when I got pregnant and am 31 now. I think it is a good age, but it did take us 8 months to conceive both times we got pregnant (first ended in m/c when I was 29).

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

daisy92:  I kept track of what day my period started and then we’d really get after it starting around cycle day 10. I had one weird cycle that freaked me out so I tried an ovulation predictor kit the next month to see if I’d get a positive. I didn’t exactly, but I did get pregnant that month! I considered us “trying” because we had lots of intentional sex, but we definitely kept it fun and as relaxed as possible. My husband loved it because we definitely had more sex than normal!

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Just wanted to chime in and say this thread makes me so happy! I got married right before my 30th birthday, and if TTC goes reasonably well for us, I’ll be pregnant at 31 and delivering at 31/32. Sometimes I do worry about having put it off, but there is no way I could have done it any earlier due to career stuff. It is just so helpful to hear from other ladies who have been down a similar road.

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m 30 and it took me about 7 months to get pregnant. It’s different for everyone but I for some reason took a little longer; more than likely had to do with genetics than my age.

I was happy to wait. Both my husband and I have established careers and a nice home and nest egg saved up. We did a crap ton of traveling when we were dating and engaged and newly married so I never felt like I never got to enjoy things or miss out on traveling and seeing different places before kids. I never felt the pressure to marry and have a baby because I was always told that my 20s were for ME and I should enjoy them, which I did. I can’t say I feel any more or less prepared for a baby if I had or hadn’t waited longer but in all seriousness who is truly ready to become a parent?

So that’s my 2 cents for what its worth

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I won’t be trying until I’m 37 which is later this year. I wish I had been a bit younger but there’s not much I can do about that. I didn’t meet my Fiance until I was 35. I have several friends who have been in relationships longer who will be trying in the next year as well and both are in their thirties. Seems to be the norm in my group. We all went to university and wanted to get our careers off the ground before having kids. I don’t know a lot of people who had kids in their early 20s actually. Most were late 20s/30s. My mom was 41 when she had me. My grandmother was 31 when she had my mom (and she’s the oldest of 5).

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

daisy92:  Yup, those things are way harder when you have kids!  DH and I met when I was 26, he was 30.  We got married last year, when I was 31, after 5 years of being together.  You have plenty of time.  

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

daisy92:  we haven’t even started to TTC yet but will both be 31 when we start next year so I can’t speak to complications in the age arena. However, I can feel your pain on the pressure, which has become extreme ever since we were engaged in 2012! 

We just waited because we hadn’t met yet so we didn’t really have a choice. Many of my friends began their families quite some time ago. But, I feel settled and ready and like I have experienced my independence adequately, which I feel is important. 

Don’t feel pressure to get pregnant because other people think you should but at the same time, stop trying to plan your time line. You might wake up 4 years from now and decide it is time to become a mommy. Who knows? Enjoy marriage and growing together and then begin your family when you are both ready. 

Post # 42
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Helper bee

Jesus, well i didn’t feel old till this post. I’m 33 and pregnant. I concieved 4 months after ‘pulling the goalie’ (ie not using protection but not really temping and doing all that TTC stuff. Just writting down when I had my period). We weren’t even really trying that hard- other life stuff was happening. I have a 1 in 10,000 chance of downs according to the screening. So far pregnancy has gone a lot better then expected. The thing is it’s odds. Some people will have trouble at earlier ages then others. I do think some people that have more other health issues might have touble ealier then people that are generally health-wise are about the same as their mid-20s. 

Post # 43
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

daisy92:  I am 30 and TTC pretty soon. Most people I know wait til at least late 20’s; my group is educated and career-focused. There are SO many reasons to wait

 

Were there any difficulties you might not have had before 30? I wanted to save money, buy a house, travel, sow some wild oats, enjoy my life, before I settled down with a kid.

Was anyone pressuring you before 30? No one pressured us at all. If anything, everyone told us to hold off! Every single mom I know is pretty much overwhelmed with having children. EVERYONE I know told me to wait as long as possible.

What was the best part about waiting? You can live your life, travel, be spontaneous, work oon your marriage, sleep in, etc and not regret the kid for taking away your freedom too early.

 

So yes, I am very glad we are waiting til our 30’s!

Post # 44
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

AND I talked to my ob/gyn just this week and she said starting at age 30 is not an issue AT ALL. At all! She said “40 is very, very tough. 30 is absolutely not a problem.” FWIW 🙂

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

daisy92:  I am 35 and have struggled to conceive for over a year… However, my older sister has gotten pregnant twice in the past 18 months, both times she had just started trying/not really trying. Also, in my group of friends, over half (all later 20,s/early 30’s) got pregnant first month trying. I think if you’re going to have problend you’ll have them regardless of age (unless you’re hitting 40). It really sucks that I met Darling Husband so late and only realised there was an issue at 34. However, if you start at 30 and there is a problem you will have lots of time to get help. 

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