Post # 46
I got my nursing degree at 30, then emmediatlu got pregnant, got a job in my field and had my babies at 31 (twins). I’m glad we waited. Me and my husband always wondered if we should have started much sooner. We met when I was 20…it certainly was an option but I felt strongly we should wait and he agreed Although he has always imagined himself as a you get dad with more energy to do things and now he’s 38. 30 doesn’t equal ideal financial status for us…but we both have good jobs and a comfortable and loving home, solid relationship. Not sure we could have survived our first two weeks with twins had we been in our twenties! We have both developed patience and deep respect for one another over the years and I think it will make us great parents.
Post # 47
daisy92: I was 31 when I got pregnant and 32 when I delivered. I didn’t have any issues conceiving or with my pregnancy. I ended up having a csection, but that was due to the babies large size, not bc of age. I didn’t feel any pressure before then to have a baby, but most of my friends and family had their first child in their 30s, so no one thought anything about it. I have to say baby fever hit hard for me when I turned 30 though. I feel like the best part about waiting is that we had more things in place, and we got to experience just being a married couple before we had children. This put us in a good place for the major life change. Do what is best for you, not for everything else. I dont think 30 is so old that it will cause you any complications.
Post # 48
I had my first baby at 23, and we were ‘not trying but not preventing’. It took one month! Seemed easy to me! I know how lucky I was though. Now I am 37 and we’re just beginning TTC. It will be interesting to see the difference between when I was 23 and now.
Post # 49
Just wanted to chime in on the other side- Im 16 weeks preg with our first. Ill be 26 when the baby gets here and my husband will be 27. We dated for 5 years got preg 6 months into being married. We live in Chicago and will def. be considered a “young” couple. We own a house and a car both have very steady jobs and great savings enough that I can stay home once the baby is here for as long as I want. We have traveled all over the US and are going to Europe for our baby moon.
I feel like theres judgement from moms over 30 sometimes on us younger moms that we didn’t wait long enough or arent as financially stable. I feel like we are extremely stable andin a much better place then older couples I know. Everything happens for people at their own pace. There is no magical age thats right to have kids at its whatever works best for you and your partner.
Post # 50
daisy92: Your pregnancy will be more effected by your health and luck then age. I was 33 and had an easy time, a lot of younger girls have major issues.
Post # 51
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
daisy92: We started trying when I was about to turn 29 and tried to conceive for 7 months. My urge for babies started after I got married in my late 20s, then I decided that the best time for us to have kids was after I turned 30. So, I will turn 30 in about 6 months, and if we are able to conceive in the next year or so, our first baby would likely be born after I turn 30 which is what I was hoping for. Our main issue has to do with MFI, and I feel a lot better health, emotional and physical wise then I did in my early-mid 20s. We are more mature, know what we want, have a stable relationship, bought a house, we are finishing our education, etc. I’ve been in school for way too long, and I only regret not finishing earlier and getting started in my career, but we have gone through a lot and know we can handle a baby and work. Early 30s is just a really perfect age in that is not too late nor too early and yet you are able to do so much in your 20s. If you want to wait a few more years to start having babies, then go for it. It won’t be too late, and you’re not alone 🙂
Post # 52
I’m just TTC for the first time now, and I’m 31. I have a college degree, a law degree, two properties including the house we live in, a stable income, and a husband with an equally stable income, a dog, and a sense of real responsibility and adulthood. Don’t let anyone else dictate your timeline for you – it is yours and yours alone. Where I live, it is unusual for people to have kids until their 30s unless they are hyper religious (i live about 20 min north of NYC in a westchester suburb and work in Manhattan).
At 22, I had debt…student loans, and I still wanted freedom that I wouldn’t have with kids. Then again, I also had not met my husband yet. However, had I, I would have still been way too immature to raise a child, and I knew that about myself, accpeted it and stuck with going after school-related goals until I was ready 🙂