(Closed) Thoughts on BOTH people in a couple financing an e-ring?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What do you think about a woman/SO helping pay for an e-ring?
    I don't mind it : (137 votes)
    75 %
    Most certainly not, tradition is tradition! : (33 votes)
    18 %
    Definitely a must, she's going to wear it, she has to help out : (5 votes)
    3 %
    Other (please state in the comments) : (7 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Well, I think it depends.  We had already combined finances and were living together and sharing everything like we were married, so for us it didn’t matter one way or the other.  If it meant having the ring I wanted, I wouldn’t mind- I am the one who is going to wear it afterall.

    Post # 4
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @OrchidsandCandles: I didn’t help out, but I think in instances where the ring is financed, or if the couple has already tied her finances to his, then she is paying for it anyways. If you get married and he has that payment then your combined money is paying for it. In my instance, Darling Husband and I already had tied our finances together. He lied to me about his tax return and told me it was a couple hundred instead of a few thousand. 

    It was HIS money, but at that point all of our money was combined. 

    Post # 5
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    716 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’m trying to convince my Boyfriend or Best Friend that he should let me contribute, but he cringes whenever I bring it up so I’m leaving it for the time being… I absolutely think that both parties should contribute to the ring, especially if it means getting something both parties are proud of.

    Post # 7
    Member
    239 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    My fiance and I split the payments for my rings 50/50, and when we got his ring we did the same. I think it’s cool and smart to do it that way.

    Post # 8
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I see absolutely nothing wrong with it at all. Most couples who are getting engaged are already somewhat combining finances for future goals anyway. If combining money means getting a forever this is it, no upgrades, perfect dream ring why not? Everyone wins.

    Post # 9
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    3624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I guess it doesn’t matter if your finances are already combined, but I don’t like the idea otherwise. I don’t have a problem with both people contributing to the wedding bands though, but I think the e-ring is the man’s responsibility… call me old fashioned!

    Post # 10
    Member
    1348 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ve already planned on buying my SO a nice watch (Something that’s 100% Swiss) when he buys me a ring, but I’d like for each price to be equivalent which may mean that he’ll be receiving a watch and something else. Or I’ll just get him a watch and factor in his wedding band because I will be a one ring girl.

    Post # 11
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    1614 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    You could help out in another way….you could buy the wedding rings if he’s not going to let you put $$$ Towards the engagement ring…

    Post # 13
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    716 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @OrchidsandCandles: Agree, I think I’ll be heartbroken (well not really, I still get him, that’s the important part) if I have to give up on the idea of the perfect ring knowing that if he just let me contribute, I could easily pay for it!

    Post # 16
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    3968 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I don’t think mine would react as strongly as yours, but he definitely sees it as his duty to buy the ring (I reminded him I buy his 🙂 ) but I think if i wanted a ring that was much more expensive (AND expected him to propose in the next year) I would make a suggestion about contributing. He probably wouldn’t like it, but I think he’d realize I couldn’t have my cake and eat it too.

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