Post # 1

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Bumble bee
My fiance wants to do the garter and bouquet toss but I personally think they are a little bit cheesy! And we aren’t going to have that many single people at our wedding. Bees, are you going to do this tradition or did you do this tradition? What are your thoughts…yay or nay?
Post # 3

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Helper bee
we did it, I did not want to, also felt it was cheesy, we didn’t call out single people, we just asked everyone to be on the dance floor, and it didn’t matter who caught it, was just for fun in the end
Post # 4

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Bumble bee
That’s a thought. I do like the thought of wearing a sexy garter for my new husband to take off of me later after the ceremony. I think almost every wedding I have been to has had a garter/bouquet toss.
Post # 5

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Helper bee
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn
I don’t mind the bouquet toss, but I can’t stand the garter toss. I find it so tacky, and if you look into the tradition behind it, it’s actually quite demeaning. My fiance and I aren’t doing either. Instead, we’re going to do a generation dance where all of the married couples come out to the dance floor and leave in 5 year increments (“If you’ve been married for less than 5 years, please leave the dance floor. If you’ve been married less than 10 years….”) until there is only one couple left. The couple who has been married the longest gets the bouquet and shares a piece of advice for marriage.
Post # 6

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Honey bee
We gave a gift card to whoever caught it.
Post # 7

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Honey bee
We are doing them! But like PP we are doing a gift card for the winner to make it a bit more fun! And we have a prety good amount of singles coming so it could be fun!
Post # 8

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Buzzing Beekeeper
I wanted to do it, but ultimately decided against it. We are having a small wedding and likely no one would participate.
Post # 9

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Bumble bee
The gift card idea is a great idea, I would never have thought of it! π The generation dance is a sweet idea! π
Post # 10

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Busy bee
I think it’s fun and we’ll be doing it
Post # 11

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Helper bee
We are skipping it. We won’t have very many singles either.
Post # 12

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Bumble bee
We didn’t have many singles, so we did the anniversary dance instead, and the tossing bouquet went to the longest married couple.
Post # 13

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Newbee
We skipped them at our wedding and honestly I never enjoyed them as a guest. The bouquet toss always makes me unconfortable because it implies that single women are just waiting around dying to be married next (ugh! I really hated it as a single guest because I never wanted to participate but felt like I had to), and I think the garter toss (or, more precisely, the garter removal) is really tacky, demeaning and disrespectful. About half of the weddings I have been to have done both, but I’m always thrilled when they’re skipped! There are plenty of people out there who think they’re fun, but don’t feel like that’s the norm.
Post # 14

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Bumble Beekeeper
We did it. However my husband doesn’t like the part when the single guy puts it on the girl’s leg, so we just had the photographer take their picture. They happened to be cousins! I just couldn’t imagine not tossing the bouquet.
Post # 15

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Bumble bee
I tend to think both of these reception traditions were made to make the single people feel “bad”. I know that isn’t the case but still that is probably why I am not that keen on the idea to begin with. LOL I do really like the idea of having a generations dance and giving the toss bouquet to the couple who has been married the longest. I think that would be a lot more memorable and sentimental in the long-run. π
Post # 16

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Buzzing Beekeeper
Fiance and I will be doing both π Heck might even get all the ladies, married or dating someone, or single, to try to catch the bouquet π