(Closed) Thoughts on Bouquet Toss and Garter Toss?

posted 9 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

we did it, I did not want to, also felt it was cheesy, we didn’t call out single people, we just asked everyone to be on the dance floor, and it didn’t matter who caught it, was just for fun in the end 

Post # 5
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn

I don’t mind the bouquet toss, but I can’t stand the garter toss. I find it so tacky, and if you look into the tradition behind it, it’s actually quite demeaning. My fiance and I aren’t doing either. Instead, we’re going to do a generation dance where all of the married couples come out to the dance floor and leave in 5 year increments (“If you’ve been married for less than 5 years, please leave the dance floor. If you’ve been married less than 10 years….”) until there is only one couple left. The couple who has been married the longest gets the bouquet and shares a piece of advice for marriage.

Post # 6
3054 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We gave a gift card to whoever caught it.

Post # 7
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We are doing them! But like PP we are doing a gift card for the winner to make it a bit more fun! And we have a prety good amount of singles coming so it could be fun!

Post # 8
7225 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I wanted to do it, but ultimately decided against it. We are having a small wedding and likely no one would participate.

Post # 10
521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think it’s fun and we’ll be doing it

Post # 11
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We are skipping it. We won’t have very many singles either.

Post # 12
892 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We didn’t have many singles, so we did the anniversary dance instead, and the tossing bouquet went to the longest married couple.

Post # 13
19 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

We skipped them at our wedding and honestly I never enjoyed them as a guest. The bouquet toss always makes me unconfortable because it implies that single women are just waiting around dying to be married next (ugh! I really hated it as a single guest because I never wanted to participate but felt like I had to), and I think the garter toss (or, more precisely, the garter removal) is really tacky, demeaning and disrespectful. About half of the weddings I have been to have done both, but I’m always thrilled when they’re skipped! There are plenty of people out there who think they’re fun, but don’t feel like that’s the norm.  

Post # 14
5486 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

We did it. However my husband doesn’t like the part when the single guy puts it on the girl’s leg, so we just had the photographer take their picture. They happened to be cousins! I just couldn’t imagine not tossing the bouquet. 

Post # 16
7550 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

Fiance and I will be doing both ๐Ÿ™‚ Heck might even get all the ladies, married or dating someone, or single, to try to catch the bouquet ๐Ÿ™‚

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