- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Backstory, looking for opinions and maybe I should cross post this on Etiquette.
My Fiance and I live together and have been dating for 3 years. I always wanted to elope, but he wanted the reception (well, party) and all that goes with it. The dinner, cake, dance, etc. We sort of compromised and we’re having a Destination Wedding, each of us taking 3 people. I’m taking my daughter, my sister and a friend. He’s taking his 2 brothers and a friend. For the reception, we’re inviting about 150+ people, expecting about 125.
Now here’s the deal. Our budget is going to be very tight to make all of this happen by mid September. We want the Destination Wedding to be carefee and luxurious for all 8 of us. That’s hampering the reception budget. And my planning on a tight budget is driving Fiance a little nuts (it is truly all I think about). I think now he’s starting to understand my desire to just elope. I kind of want to just cancel the reception and spend extra on the Destination Wedding.
We have 2 problems. 1. Not all of our family is going for the Destination Wedding, so we were planning on doing family pictures at the reception. Namely our parents and my brothers. Biggest problem, 2. We already sent Save The Dates to everyone invited for the reception and a few are from out of town. Now, people probably haven’t made travel plans, but still. We already got some congratulations on your engagement cards in the mail, etc.
Should I just suck it up and have the reception for the rest of the friends/family? Or is there a way to politely say “Never mind?”