Post # 1
Recently met with a photographer who’s work I really like but when we were talking timeline, they factored in time for a “first look” before the ceremony, said if we did those photos afterwards the cocktail hour would be a little long (?1.5 hrs). What are your thoughts on first look, does it ruin “that moment” when your soon to be husband sees you for the first time walking down the aisle? Anyone do it and love it (or regret it)?
Post # 2
molivia : This was my favorite moment of our wedding day. It was just me and my husband and it was perfect. I was so nervous to see him, but when I did, all the pressure and worry was gone and I was able to enjoy the day.
Post # 3
photographers push it because its easier for them logistically. I wanted the “first look” to be coming down the aisle. Save the response and emotion for that moment, I like the tradition.
I also find the first look pics a bit forced. Some people want to have a “private” moment before the wedding. Do what you want regardless of photographers insistence.
Post # 4
molivia : I’m team first look. Did it, loved it. He still cried when i walked down the aisle (and didn’t cry during the first look). Didn’t take away from “that moment” at all, but that moment was still that moment.
Post # 5
Personally I think it’s dumb and I would never do it but a lot of people seem happy to do it so it really depends on how much you care about the tradition of him not seeing you until you’re coming down the aisle. I care about that tradition so I would never do first look. It seems fake to me.
Post # 6
I haven’t gotten married yet but we are planning on doing the first look. To me, it’s an opportunity to have a really private, special moment with my fiance before we get married – I think it’ll help with any nerves or jitters as he is always a source of calmness for me!
Plus, my fiance is my best friend. We see each other every day, and with our wedding not being until 5:00 in the evening, it would kill me if I had to wait until then to see him, when again – I’ll probably be a bundle of nerves.
Plus, yeah – logistically it works better! But everyone’s opinions are different so I would do what makes the most sense to you 🙂 everyone I know who’s gotten married recently really enjoyed doing a first look, though.
Post # 7
As someone who was anti-first look (but whose fiance wanted one), once we nailed down our timing for the day, I was SO glad we are doing it. We are now also going to do private vows at this time in a parlor at the church, which is something we wanted to do but didn’t really feel the need to share with all our guests. It’s also the only time we’ll be alone (except for photographers) the whole day.
I’m so excited to have that time with my fiance before the wedding, and I truly think it will enhance the rest of the day by allowing us to do 90% of the pictures before the ceremony and letting us enjoy the cocktail hour and reception fully. We will be doing complete bride, groom, bride and groom, bridal party, and immediate family pictures before the family, leaving three extended family photos for after the ceremony.
I also talked to a close friend who said their first look and portrait time was her favorite part of the entire day.
Post # 8
We loved it. It was great to have the pictures out the way. Didn’t change the emotions of the walk down the aisle at all. We both got emotional (and I never get emotional) at that point. I am glad we got time together before as during the wedding was harder.
Post # 9
I LOVE them. We aren’t doing one, but I think they are some of the most beautiful pictures that come out of weddings. My fiance is adamant that he wants the first time he seems me to be when I’m walking down the aisle, so I am fine with that. We just asked our photographer to do his best to capture that emotion from the aisle.
Post # 10
We aren’t necessarily doing the whole staged first look pics, but we are making all our pics before the wedding. While the idea of him seeing me the first time coming down the aisle is romantic, being rushed for pictures after the ceremony isn’t. These are my reasons for doing photos beforehand, based on my experiences being in other weddings.
Your make-up could be cried off after the ceremony.
Your wedding party will be tired of standing and ready to sit down or get something to eat, which results in rushed photos and possible bad attitudes.
Your family will be harder to pin down for photos because inevitably some of them will head straight to the reception, whereas if you give them instruction to be at a place at a certain time before, they will be.
The photographer will be less rushed and not as apt to miss important shots that you wanted.
Seeing each other beforehand is a great way to settle nerves.He’ll be just as shocked when he sees you, and the day won’t be any less special.
Post # 11
People say they seem forced or fake, but I think you’re going to get more natural and real emotions in a first look then when you’re walking down the aisle and have 100+ people staring at you.
Post # 12
I’m not going to do a first look. I find the idea really awkward as it won’t be “just the two of us” it will also be two photographers. I want the build up to be for the ceremony. I don’t think doing photos after the ceremony will take away from the day because no one really does first looks here so the bride and groom being gone for some of the cocktail hour isn’t weird.
I won’t be away taking photos for 1.5hs either so I guess first looks help people who want loads of photos.
Post # 13
I love our first look photos. I also just loved hanging out with my husband before the ceremony. If there’s one thing I would change about our day it’s that I would have gotten ready with him and spent the whole day together.
Walking down the aisle was still special and doing most of the photos beforehand meant we got to join the end of our cocktail hour and the whole day just flowed more smoothly.
Post # 14
We did a first look and I’m SO glad we did. I was so jittery and nervous and just wanted to see him on the day of the wedding. Having that private time to ourselves was amazing and I was able to go into our wedding ceremony a bit more relaxed. Also, instead of being on stage in front of everyone and unable to really react to seeing the other for the first time, we could both really take in how wonderful the other person looked.
As for ruining the moment walking down the aisle, it didn’t at all. Walking down the aisle, the ceremony, I felt like we were in our own little world together. It was so amazing and wonderful!
Post # 15
We did a first look. I honestly don’t remember any of it. I was so anxious and excited to get to the ceremony and there was so much going on that it was a blur. When I walked down the aisle, it still felt like we were seeing each other for the first time because I was more relaxed and in the moment.