Thoughts on getting your boyfriend an engagement ring for after he proposes?

posted 9 months ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

bakerbee09 :  ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s actually a custom in our society (Turkish). I like that when you’re together, people just look at your right fingers and ask “when’s the wedding?” automatically it’s obvious who’s engaged to whom. ๐Ÿ˜€ 

Post # 17
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Newbee

My fiance is wearing a ring right now, and he loves it! It wasn’t originally the plan, but I’m happy to have gotten him one!

After getting engaged, I bought him an Enso silicone elements ring (infused with silver), thinking he could wear it in situations where it wouldn’t be suitable to wear his platinum wedding band. However, after showing the ring to him and making sure it fit, he asked when he should start wearing it. I answered “after we get married” at first, but I realized that he was excited to wear it and that he should have a chance to show that he’s engaged too, so that was the decision! To my surprise, he was out showing it off to co-workers, family, and friends ๐Ÿ™‚ so I would recommend it if your boyfriend/fiance is down for wearing one. It’s not traditional in the US, but there’s nothing wrong with both people having the opportunity to show their commitment to each other!

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper

I think it sucks that men are expected to spend so much on a ring and we don’t get them anything. So I got him an engagement watch lol. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

 jellybellynelly :  I definitely agree with this. I tried so hard to get him a ring that cost the same as mine (especially because mine was so affordable ~500). But my husband doesn’t have expensive tastes… That jerk!

Post # 20
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Sugar bee

When my husband and I were engaged he was always super jealous that I already got to wear my ring. I would sometimes come home from work and catch him wearing his wedding band around the house haha. 

If you think your bf/fiance is the type that likes that kind of symbolism and sentiment I’d totally do it. I should have for mine!

The main reason we didn’t is because he didn’t want to wear two rings after we were married, but he wanted there to be a symbolic change after the wedding. But maybe you could get him a cheaper/more sturdy version of a wedding band that he could wear on holidays or in situations where he can’t wear his nice band?

 

 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Las Vegas, NV

starlight12 :  lol showing off his ring to his family and co workers sounds like my boyfriend. We are not married yet but we wanted to both wear a ring. He never wore a ring before and I wasn’t sure he would even like it but he told me one day he was showing it to everyone at work. It makes me happy to know he is proud to wear his ring. I can’t wait until we are officially get engaged. 

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Post # 22
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Newbee

jellybellynelly :  Ooh nice! I like that idea!

FutureMrsA2020 :  Aww that’s so sweet! When we were boyfriend/girlfriend, we had matching bracelets that we wore, so kind of the same idea…although in front of friends, he’d joke that I made him wear it lol. So just curious, do people tend to question whether you guys are married already? 

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

sbl99 :  My boyfriend wants a Rolex and I feel like there’s no logical argument to this since it’s the same price as an engagement ring. At least the watch tells time.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Yes! I had actually bought him an engagement ring before he proposed because I liked the idea of him wearing one too (on his left hand). We’d talked about it before and he said he liked the idea, so I didn’t spring it on him or anything. I also figured that if he took too long to propose, I could do it for him lol. His ring arrived the day after he proposed, so I did a counter-proposal the next day and asked him back. It was really sweet and he ended up liking the engagement ring so much that we decided to just use it as his wedding band. I wish I had a picture of us wearing them together, but this is all I have. I say go for it- its an awesome idea.Jeffs_Ring

Post # 25
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Newbee

jellybellynelly :  I got my SO an engagement watch too!! I’m getting it engraved so I can give it to him when he eventually proposes. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Las Vegas, NV

starlight12 :  I haven’t had any question us yet but I did have a lady ask us why they match. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

bakerbee09 :  Yes people will think he’s married. I understand the temptation (my dh and I wore our wedding bands at home all the time before we married, neither of us could wait!), but I think both of you wearing rings publically is something that should be reserved for marriage. Having him wear a band beforehand takes away the specialness of him wearing an actual wedding band… it’s also a kind of lie, because you’re presenting yourselves as married when you haven’t made that legal commitment. I promise you, it’ll be worth the wait!

Plus, us ladies loooove the sparkles whereas men are generally more interested in other items. An engagement watch (or drone, if that’s what he wants!), is a better idea for multiple reasons.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I also got my husband an engagement ring which he now wears as a right hand ring.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - Temecula, California

After we got engaged he asked if he could wear one too!  Definitely not going to say no to that!  He wore it on his left ring finger then for our wedding I got him a new wedding band. 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

 I bought my hubby a couple different rings while we were dating as he wears jewelry when we dress up.  But that’s the only time he wears any jewelry, and it’s not often so getting him an engagement wouldn’t work for us.  With that said I have male friends who wore an engagement ring.  It’s very sweet, and if it’s something that works for you I say go for it!  

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